About The Author

Thomas Mark Zuniga

Chronic wanderer and melancholic delighter in the what-comes-next. I'm YOB's cofounder and editor, and I also host our podcast. I've written a couple books and first started fleshing out my story of faith and same-sex attraction years ago under the Xanga username "Two Beckonings." I'm an INFJ, Enneagram Type 4, and my favorite place is the one where coffee and vulnerability meet. Feel free to reach out if we've yet to connect; maybe it was ever ago planned that we one day would?

State of the YOB! November 2018

It’s a special 3-year anniversary edition of State of the YOB! Your Other Brothers has existed for three years now, and we can’t thank our supporters enough. Thanks for making this community what it’s become the last three years.

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My Two Greatest Struggles as a Man

Tom shares his two greatest masculine struggles: capability and beauty. To counter those long engrained voices, he dives into 1 Samuel 17 and Psalm 139 for stories and thoughts from everyone’s favorite ruddy poet-king.

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YOBcast Episode 043: Body Image

How do men experience body image compared to women? On a physical level and an emotional level, what does it mean to possess a healthy male body image? And how do our sexualities tie into our body image? Join Tom, Ryan, and first-timer Jacob for a discussion on insecurities about body shapes, friendship desirability, penis size, balding, and our innate sense of masculinity.

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A Man Like All the Other Men?

I recently returned from a men’s retreat in which I came face-to-face with my biggest struggle: not anything regarding my sexuality or sexual addictions. But simply feeling like a man. Like a man among men, assembled on an equal playing field rather than somewhere on another field’s sidelines.

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State of the YOB! October 2018

It’s our next installment of State of the YOB! Our monthly roundup of the blogs, podcasts, videos, and all things YOB produced in October. Watch also as Tom struggles to light a candle and the camera battery dies!

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YOBcast Episode 042: Generations

How have our culture and we ourselves understood and expressed issues of sexuality across the generations? Join Tom, Ryan, and Marshall for a conversation on these varying generational perspectives: Tom and Ryan as millennials and Marshall as a baby boomer. We discuss how the generations have addressed sexuality and “coming out” over the decades, accessibility to pornography and promiscuous outlets, the “gay” identity and male-on-male cuddling, and the biggest thing in culture we’d like to see change with the next generation.

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Recognizing National Coming Out Day

It’s October 11, National Coming Out Day. Over the years, countless individuals, young and old, have taken to YouTube, Facebook, the Internet, and face-to-face relationships to finally reveal their sexuality this month. Coming out is a pivotal moment in any gay or SSA (same-sex attracted) person’s journey, and we gathered our featured authors together for a conversation on our own coming out experiences this Coming Out Month.

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Jesus Wants Us All to Come Out

It’s National Coming Out Month. For this month’s MANLY MONDAY, Tom takes a look at the hunchbacked woman of Luke 13, relating her 18-year story to his own 19-year journey of coming out and finally bringing the dark below to light.

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State of the YOB! September 2018

It’s our premiere episode of “State of the YOB,” a recap of last month’s blogs, podcasts, and video as I also bid a fond farewell to a dear, zero-legged friend.

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I’m Still Ashamed to Talk About My Sexuality

Just because I’m “out” doesn’t mean I’m always going out of my way to talk about sexuality. Outside my closest friendships, I still don’t feel comfortable sharing. I still feel ashamed of my sexuality. Even after all this time. All these stories, written or otherwise.

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