About Me

Chronic wanderer, lover of all things melancholic and whimsical. I'm the cofounder and editor for YOB, and I also host our bimonthly podcast, the YOBcast. In another life, I go by Thomas Mark Zuniga, author of STRUGGLE CENTRAL, a collection of my messy memoirs. In another another life, I went by "Two Beckonings" on the long lost blogging platform, Xanga, where I first fleshed out my story of faith and same-sex attraction. I'm an INFJ/INFP depending on the day and an Enneagram Type 4 all the day long -- basically, I like to be alone and cry and yearn for what I cannot have. I've lived in Pennsylvania, Georgia, California, and North Carolina, working with youth in tutoring, camps, wilderness therapy, and currently a therapeutic boarding school. My favorite thing in life is the crossroads where struggle meets redemption; reaching this crossroads in community is even better. That's why I'm so glad YOB exists.

YOBcast Rehash: Support Groups
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YOBcast Rehash: Support Groups

Tom and Elliott return for a video rehash of our support groups podcast! Join Tom and Elliott as we walk down a city street filled with old churches for shenanigans and feedback from our recent episode. Thanks again to YOBBER Ryan for appearing on the show! Check out the comments on our podcast episode page, and don’t […]

YOBcast Episode 022: Living Together
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YOBcast Episode 022: Living Together

Can same-sex attracted guys live together? Is there ever any physical/sexual temptation? Aren’t there at least heavy emotional issues living in the same house? Tom, Elliott, and Bradley gather to discuss one of our most often asked questions: how do you three SSA guys live together in the same house? It’s an enlightening hour of […]

YOBcast Rehash: Manliness
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YOBcast Rehash: Manliness

Tom and Elliott return for a rehash of our manliness podcast episode! It was our most critical episode yet, and we dive into some of the criticism. Check out the comments on our podcast episode page, and don’t forget to comment on future episodes for the chance to appear in a YOBcast Rehash video! You can […]

YOBcast Rehash: 1-Year Podcast Anniversary
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YOBcast Rehash: 1-Year Podcast Anniversary

Welcome to another episode of the YOBcast Rehash! In this episode, Tom and Elliott roam the grounds of a golf course to answer questions and respond to feedback from our 1-Year Podcast Anniversary episode of the YOBcast. The biggest question: pushing that big red button to reset our sexuality. We had a lot of fascinating […]

YOBcast Episode 021: Support Groups
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YOBcast Episode 021: Support Groups

Do support groups work? What support groups meet our needs and which ones leave us in longing? What role can men with SSA have in the Church? In this episode, we welcome a very special guest: Ryan, a faithful Patreon supporter of the last year. He joins Tom, Elliott, and Bradley for a discussion on […]

YOBcast Episode 020: Manliness
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YOBcast Episode 020: Manliness

What is manliness? Who modeled manliness for us? Is there a one-size-fits-all model for manliness in today’s culture? As always, we thank our faithful Patreon supporters. This episode — and every episode — would not be possible without you. You fuel our show with comments, questions, and fantastic perspectives. Thank you, YOBBERS! If you love […]

YOBcast Rehash: Sports
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YOBcast Rehash: Sports

Join Tom and Elliott on our second episode of the YOBcast Rehash! Click here if you missed our premiere episode on gay perceptions. In this episode, we rehash some feedback from our sports podcast episode — while walking through a babbling brook, no less! And don’t worry: we talk about that name that some people […]

The First Guy Who Ever Tried to Kiss Me
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The First Guy Who Ever Tried to Kiss Me

I’ve written before about having never been kissed. But that doesn’t mean someone’s never tried to kiss me. Back when I was befriending this fellow blogger who liked to hold my hand, I’d had fantasies about what it would be like: kissing him, fooling around in my car. Never anything romantic or long-term — just […]

YOBcast Episode 019: 1-Year Podcast Anniversary!
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YOBcast Episode 019: 1-Year Podcast Anniversary!

It’s hard to believe the YOBcast has now existed for an entire year! In this special anniversary episode, Tom and Elliott and six additional blogging brothers unite for a fun hour of reminiscing over the last year and ponder the age-old question: if you could push a big red button and erase your homosexuality, would you […]

YOBcast Rehash: Gay Perceptions
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YOBcast Rehash: Gay Perceptions

Starting today, we’re launching a new bimonthly show on YouTube (YOBTube?!). Thanks to our faithful supporters on Patreon, we’ll start recapping our podcast episodes in video form! For our first YOBcast Rehash, Tom and Elliott discuss feedback on our recent “gay perceptions” episodes. Thanks to all who commented on those podcast episode posts! Be sure to […]