The First Guy Who Ever Held My Hand
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The First Guy Who Ever Held My Hand

Years ago, back when I’d first delved into the world of online SSA friendships, I got to talking with another SSA guy in my area. We commented on each other’s blogs, we friended each other on Facebook, and we traded phone numbers, too. He intimidated me, this guy: attractive and charming and, most of all, […]

Giving My Kids the Sex Talk
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Giving My Kids the Sex Talk

Daddy, how are babies made? I was sitting on my living room floor with my three kids while my wife was out when my six-year-old daughter asked me this question. There was no real motivation for it — simply a thought that had popped into her mind. Nevertheless, I think she had been wondering about […]

Avoiding the Mistakes of my Parents
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Avoiding the Mistakes of my Parents

“Ready for bed, darling?” I call out to my daughter. With my wife out of town, it’s just me and my girl tonight. We’ve already hung out most of the day, watched some shows, and enjoyed dinner with my friend, now ready to finish out the day. My daughter responds with a sleepy sigh. You’re definitely […]

YOBcast Episode 015: More Than Our Sexuality
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YOBcast Episode 015: More Than Our Sexuality

We are more than our struggles and our weaknesses. And it’s important to remember the other facets of our being, including our strengths. In this episode, Tom, Elliott, and Bradley gather around for a more upbeat hour, including some get-to-know-you icebreakers and a conversation on personalities and Strengths Finder. Thanks again to our awesome Patreon supporters! If […]

I’ll Never Have a Childhood Best Friend
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I’ll Never Have a Childhood Best Friend

I attended a wedding once, and I couldn’t stop staring at the best man. His hair, his tux, his smile — I fixated on him for obvious reasons. Then came his speech at the reception. “I’ve been best friends with the groom since first grade,” he said. He went on to say how bittersweet it […]

Real Men Don’t Take Baths
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Real Men Don’t Take Baths

“Dude, what do you think you’re doing?” His shocked tone both surprised me and didn’t at the same time. I wanted to come off as curious while not sounding stupid. I simply asked “What?” and watched his eyes widen even further. “Dude, you took a bath,” Martin exclaimed, eyes now larger than originally thought possible. “How […]

To Love A Woman
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To Love A Woman

“Are you dating anyone?” “Are there any girls you’re interested in?” “Who’s got your attention?” These questions were often asked of me in high school. Though I was very aware that guys in their teens were supposed to be interested in the female species, I was hardly conscious of them. I pretended to be fascinated by […]

YOBcast Episode 009: Male Envy
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YOBcast Episode 009: Male Envy

What does it mean to envy another? What do we envy in men? And why exactly are we envious of other men? In this episode, Tom and Elliott discuss the trap of envy — as well as envy’s antidote — from their Enneagram Type 4 perspectives. If you enjoy our show and haven’t yet done so, please consider rating […]

Getting Married … with Same-Sex Attraction
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Getting Married … with Same-Sex Attraction

When I was eighteen, God told me that I would get married one day. I said okay. When I was nineteen, I started making out with my best friend / codependent. Then he and I broke up. When I was twenty, I was fully aware of my homosexual cravings and had no attraction to women […]

Best Friends with a Straight Guy
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Best Friends with a Straight Guy

This is part 1 in my series about my friendship with Justin. Check out  Part 2. I also referenced Justin on episode 6 of the YOBcast. I met Justin about a year after he became a Christian. He had joined the same church I attended, and I got to know him through another friend at church. […]