Finding Freedom on Father’s Day
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Finding Freedom on Father’s Day

What a way to start my Father’s Day. I mean, I can think of worse ways. Balloons could have gotten caught in the ceiling fan above my bed and mimicked the sounds of machine guns as they whirled around wildly. However, I can’t say that this text lay too far ahead in the lineup. As […]

When the Attractive Cashier is More Than an Attractive Cashier
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When the Attractive Cashier is More Than an Attractive Cashier

I’ve started fixating on an attractive cashier at a local grocery store. He’s the first thing I look for when the doors whoosh open. My heart drops if I don’t see him, and it drops even further when I do. I talk about A.C. often. I bring him up with my roommates, and I mention him to […]

When Friendships Come and Go
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When Friendships Come and Go

As they mature, infants and toddlers begin to understand two things: just because something cannot be seen or experienced does not mean it has ceased to exist, and key people in their lives will eventually return. I, on the other hand, have not come to this understanding, especially regarding friendships. For me, friendships are like […]

Replacing My Best Friend
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Replacing My Best Friend

I stood at the back of the room, mulling over the past year. Twelve months ago, I was still getting to know this guy; heck, eighteen months ago, I didn’t even know he existed. Now, I’m supporting Carver in a performance like a proud friend. Almost like a best friend. My other friend, John, has similarities […]

I’ll Never Have a Childhood Best Friend
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I’ll Never Have a Childhood Best Friend

I attended a wedding once, and I couldn’t stop staring at the best man. His hair, his tux, his smile — I fixated on him for obvious reasons. Then came his speech at the reception. “I’ve been best friends with the groom since first grade,” he said. He went on to say how bittersweet it […]

When Male Friendship Dies
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When Male Friendship Dies

This is Part 3 in this friendship series; check out Part 1 and Part 2. I also reference Justin on episode 6 of the YOBcast. When my straight roommate, Justin, learned I dealt with same-sex attraction, he almost ended the friendship right then and there. He saw my obsession with him and that I wanted him to meet all my […]

My Last Time as a Victim of Emotional Dependency
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My Last Time as a Victim of Emotional Dependency

The following is Part Three in this series of posts; click here for Part One and here for Part Two. During the weeks following my awkward and painful confession to my fraternity brother, I continued to ruminate over my disclosure. I wondered if my new friend’s response was genuine. I questioned how much of his response […]

When Friendship Turns Unhealthy
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When Friendship Turns Unhealthy

This is Part 2 in my series about my friendship with Justin. Check out Part 1. I also referenced Justin on episode 6 of the YOBcast. Almost immediately after I moved in with my straight friend, Justin, things started to go bad between us. He was not at home as much as I had expected since he […]

When I Hated Women
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When I Hated Women

Being separated from my wife and daughter for so long and then finally being reunited with them was great, but it was also a bit of a lifestyle shock for me. I had only lived with Yoko for a month before, and I had never lived with a baby at all before. Both my wife […]

Best Friends with a Straight Guy
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Best Friends with a Straight Guy

This is part 1 in my series about my friendship with Justin. Check out  Part 2. I also referenced Justin on episode 6 of the YOBcast. I met Justin about a year after he became a Christian. He had joined the same church I attended, and I got to know him through another friend at church. […]