Male Nudity Will Fix Me
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Male Nudity Will Fix Me

I’ve written about my childhood fascination with nudity and how it led me into the nudist world, making me act out my sexual insecurities. I’d go even deeper into the world of nudism, thinking it’d be the solution to my problems. While I did have a strongly sexual fascination with male nudity, I figured it […]

What Every SSA Guy Needs
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What Every SSA Guy Needs

His question was an honest one. No ill intentions, no wild presuppositions. Simply put: a curiosity stemming from lack of education. More in passing than direct, a side statement within a side statement. But it was still a question. And it had to be answered. Why do SSA guys need strong male friendships? My friend Mick […]

Replacing My Best Friend
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Replacing My Best Friend

I stood at the back of the room, mulling over the past year. Twelve months ago, I was still getting to know this guy; heck, eighteen months ago, I didn’t even know he existed. Now, I’m supporting Carver in a performance like a proud friend. Almost like a best friend. My other friend, John, has similarities […]

YOBcast Episode 013: Emotional Dependency, Part 1
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YOBcast Episode 013: Emotional Dependency, Part 1

What is emotional dependency? How do we avoid falling emotionally dependent on another man for our survival, and how do we recover when we cross that line? It’s the first in a two-part episode on emotional dependency — or “emodep,” as we so lovingly call it. Join Tom and Elliott along with Corey, Marshall, and […]

Rebirth of a Male Friendship
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Rebirth of a Male Friendship

This is Part 4 of my friendship series with Justin. Check out Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3. I also talked about Justin in the YOBcast Episode 006. Surprisingly, the end of my friendship with Justin was not the end of the story. I had destroyed our friendship by my unhealthy emotional dependence and demands […]

My Last Time as a Victim of Emotional Dependency
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My Last Time as a Victim of Emotional Dependency

The following is Part Three in this series of posts; click here for Part One and here for Part Two. During the weeks following my awkward and painful confession to my fraternity brother, I continued to ruminate over my disclosure. I wondered if my new friend’s response was genuine. I questioned how much of his response […]

Why I Used to Hate Sports
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Why I Used to Hate Sports

I fully expect a mob of YOBBERS to tie me to the whipping post when I say this, but I love sports and I love competition. I love the push, the struggle, the fight toward victory. I love the way my chest burns when I am on the brink of exhaustion and the tiny voice […]

Coming Out of the Shadows
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Coming Out of the Shadows

It was late, and I had no motivation to continue working on my homework assignment. After reading what seemed like an endless number of wide-lined academic verbiage, my eyes had begun to dehydrate and burn. As a classic undergraduate student, I knew exactly the type of study break I needed: a short car ride with […]

Things I’m Learning While Living With Another Guy
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Things I’m Learning While Living With Another Guy

Hey brothers! I wanted to give you all a quick bird’s eye view of my life the last 9 months! I bought a house. It feels really weird typing that sentence right now! I still lie in bed at nights and have a hard time processing the fact that I’m responsible for my own place. […]

When Brotherhood Was Impossible
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When Brotherhood Was Impossible

I’ve never really understood what brotherhood is . . . until now. I’ve grown up with many blood-related brothers. But those relationships were distant or extremely hard to engage. Two of my brothers have developmental disabilities. My oldest brother is 12 years older than me and moved out before I started second grade. I had male […]