Real Men Don’t Take Baths
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Real Men Don’t Take Baths

“Dude, what do you think you’re doing?” His shocked tone both surprised me and didn’t at the same time. I wanted to come off as curious while not sounding stupid. I simply asked “What?” and watched his eyes widen even further. “Dude, you took a bath,” Martin exclaimed, eyes now larger than originally thought possible. “How […]

Coming Out to My Fraternity Brother
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Coming Out to My Fraternity Brother

The following is Part Two in this series of posts; click here for Part One. In an attempt to comfort myself as I prepared to share my story of same-sex attraction and addiction with my new friend and fraternity brother, I focused on one of my favorite verses from Isaiah: So don’t worry, because I am […]

Why I Don’t Want to be a Man
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Why I Don’t Want to be a Man

One word makes me cringe. I hate to say it. I hate to hear it. And I especially hate when people refer to me as it. “Man.” That word conjures up nothing but horrid mental images. As a little boy, I saw a “man” as someone cold, distant, and emotionless. He was bound to his job, […]

YOBcast Episode 003: Digging Deeper with Tom & Elliott
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YOBcast Episode 003: Digging Deeper with Tom & Elliott

PODCAST WEEK continues on our blog with Episode 003! In this episode, Tom and Elliott interview each other about family and friendship, childhood and adulthood, and their respective faiths. It’s a chance for you to dive deeper into their stories beyond the blog. You can subscribe to our show on iTunes or Stitcher for notifications every time […]

The Shame in Bisexuality
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The Shame in Bisexuality

Over the years, I’ve heard various uninformed perceptions of bisexuality flippantly voiced by acquaintances, friends, and family members. “There’s no such thing as bisexual,” stated one acquaintance. Another said, “People who claim to be bisexual are just in denial. They’re really just gay.” I vividly remember a relative concluding: “Bisexuals are the most messed up people. Why […]

Overwhelmed by My First Gay Feelings
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Overwhelmed by My First Gay Feelings

This next chapter of my life, my middle school years of 11 to 13, was one of the most difficult times I have ever faced. First, my father had to work longer hours and I rarely saw him. For some reason, I also started feeling emotionally isolated from my mother, brother, and sister. As a natural […]

Where Do I Belong?
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Where Do I Belong?

Hello readers! This is my first post on YOB and I hope all of you enjoy it. My name is John, and I want to belong. But wait. Doesn’t everyone? It seems that with the rise of social media “news groups” (i.e. BuzzFeed), there is a repetitive theme of aiming to relate to all people […]

I Am a Sinner?
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I Am a Sinner?

Elliott’s Story: Chapter Six Read: Chapter 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 Whenever I’d have one of my two friends over to spend the night, my dad would always make sure we weren’t sleeping next to each other. Perhaps he suspected I was doing inappropriate things with them, or perhaps not, because he would take the same precaution with my […]

My Older Brothers Abused Me
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My Older Brothers Abused Me

I was abused as a child. Please don’t call any government agencies. Just hear me out. I wasn’t physically or sexually abused. My abuse was verbal and emotional — very much both of those. My perpetrators? My two older brothers. I don’t think they “meant” to abuse me. I honestly don’t know their intentions; many […]

I Am Living a Nightmare
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I Am Living a Nightmare

Elliott’s Story: Chapter Five Read: Chapter 1, 2, 3, 4. I’m lying in bed trying to fall asleep. The room is dark, the door cracked slightly. I can see the faint blue glow from the television emanating down the hall. The eerie theme song to The X-Files seeps into my bedroom. I’d hear that haunting, familiar tune night after night as if […]