Coming Out to My Fraternity Brother
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Coming Out to My Fraternity Brother

The following is Part Two in this series of posts; click here for Part One. In an attempt to comfort myself as I prepared to share my story of same-sex attraction and addiction with my new friend and fraternity brother, I focused on one of my favorite verses from Isaiah: So don’t worry, because I am […]

Coming Out of the Shadows
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Coming Out of the Shadows

It was late, and I had no motivation to continue working on my homework assignment. After reading what seemed like an endless number of wide-lined academic verbiage, my eyes had begun to dehydrate and burn. As a classic undergraduate student, I knew exactly the type of study break I needed: a short car ride with […]

Banned from Youth Ministry
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Banned from Youth Ministry

Back before my whole church ordeal started, before being told I couldn’t lead in any ministry, I was already heavily involved in my church. I took part in the college-age ministry, I attended the main church campus for awesome Bible teaching, and I served the best way I could in whatever area needed. A few weeks before I applied for SOM and leadership for […]

How I Was Hurt By My Church
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How I Was Hurt By My Church

These next several posts will probably be the hardest ones I’ll ever write. Some of this still affects me and will continue to affect me long into the future. I am in no way disrespecting my church, my pastor, the elders, or the congregation. I love attending my church and uphold them to the highest regard. Unfortunately, I […]

YOBcast Episode 003: Digging Deeper with Tom & Elliott
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YOBcast Episode 003: Digging Deeper with Tom & Elliott

PODCAST WEEK continues on our blog with Episode 003! In this episode, Tom and Elliott interview each other about family and friendship, childhood and adulthood, and their respective faiths. It’s a chance for you to dive deeper into their stories beyond the blog. You can subscribe to our show on iTunes or Stitcher for notifications every time […]

The Season of Best Friends & Brotherhood
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The Season of Best Friends & Brotherhood

Elliott’s Story: Chapter Thirteen Read: Chapter 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12 Those next four years were some of the most formative years of my life — relationally, spiritually, and personally. I went from few friends to many friends; from no one knowing of my struggles to handfuls of people knowing all my secrets; from knowing no other same-sex attracted guys […]

Why I Like to Look Good
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Why I Like to Look Good

As you may have noticed, I like fashion! And if you ever meet me, you’ll know that I LOVE fashion by the way I look! Then again, we live in a millennial age where almost everyone dresses like a hipster — and I am guilty for dressing like one! But I don’t mind! I get […]

How I Failed My Gay Brother: Part 3, Publicly Outed
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How I Failed My Gay Brother: Part 3, Publicly Outed

After my gay brother Brad’s first year at college, his “girlfriend” dropped out and moved back to our hometown. When Brad returned to school his second year, he stayed in the dorm while I lived off-campus with my Christian friends. Brad grew more sexually involved with other guys, now without the cover of an opposite-sex relationship. […]

How My Friends Helped Me Desexualize Men
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How My Friends Helped Me Desexualize Men

I’m going to focus on men with same-sex attractions here; that is kind of what this whole website is about. Many SSA men, including myself some years ago, find it very easy to go back to porn in a moment of weakness. It’s a constant temptation. But why is it a temptation? Most of us are not […]

Are The Tides Reversing?
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Are The Tides Reversing?

Elliott’s Story: Chapter Twelve Read: Chapter 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11 After hitting the bottom, I had no where else to go but up. I knew God had me alive for a reason. After finding my little online community and coming out to my first person ever, I began a new journey. One I never thought I would walk […]