Losing the Greatest Community of My Life
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Losing the Greatest Community of My Life

Two years ago, I moved away from an incredibly close community of guys. I first met these guys during my first year of Bible college. We all lived in the same dorm, and we grew incredibly close. I disclosed my attraction to the same sex to all of them just a month or two into […]

When We Pray Together
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When We Pray Together

I remember the first time I told anyone outside my family about my same-sex attraction. A friend suggested we go and talk with a couple of guys from the church I’d just started attending. I was a nervous wreck thinking about it for a couple days. But it was so good to confess and talk […]

When the Attractive Cashier is More Than an Attractive Cashier
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When the Attractive Cashier is More Than an Attractive Cashier

I’ve started fixating on an attractive cashier at a local grocery store. He’s the first thing I look for when the doors whoosh open. My heart drops if I don’t see him, and it drops even further when I do. I talk about A.C. often. I bring him up with my roommates, and I mention him to […]

My Greatest Fear in Coming Out
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My Greatest Fear in Coming Out

I’m so tired of it all: living two lives isn’t something I can maintain while also living a thriving life. Picking and choosing what I do and what I talk about whether I’m “out” to the person I’m with is terribly exhausting. My last post spoke of a time I overcame my fear and opened up […]

My Last Time as a Victim of Emotional Dependency
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My Last Time as a Victim of Emotional Dependency

The following is Part Three in this series of posts; click here for Part One and here for Part Two. During the weeks following my awkward and painful confession to my fraternity brother, I continued to ruminate over my disclosure. I wondered if my new friend’s response was genuine. I questioned how much of his response […]

Overcoming My Fear of Coming Out
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Overcoming My Fear of Coming Out

Last summer, I went on a missions trip. Before we left the country, my team had a week of training in the U.S. A couple days after I’d met my team and orientation had started, it was time for us to share our testimonies with each other. I knew I had to say it. The one […]

Coming Out to My Fraternity Brother
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Coming Out to My Fraternity Brother

The following is Part Two in this series of posts; click here for Part One. In an attempt to comfort myself as I prepared to share my story of same-sex attraction and addiction with my new friend and fraternity brother, I focused on one of my favorite verses from Isaiah: So don’t worry, because I am […]

Coming Out of the Shadows
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Coming Out of the Shadows

It was late, and I had no motivation to continue working on my homework assignment. After reading what seemed like an endless number of wide-lined academic verbiage, my eyes had begun to dehydrate and burn. As a classic undergraduate student, I knew exactly the type of study break I needed: a short car ride with […]

When Friendship Turns Unhealthy
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When Friendship Turns Unhealthy

This is Part 2 in my series about my friendship with Justin. Check out Part 1. I also referenced Justin on episode 6 of the YOBcast. Almost immediately after I moved in with my straight friend, Justin, things started to go bad between us. He was not at home as much as I had expected since he […]

YOBcast Episode 008: Coming Out to Family
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YOBcast Episode 008: Coming Out to Family

Tom’s biological brother, Andy, joins the show with his other brothers, Elliott and Corey, for a conversation on coming out to family members. We get Andy’s unique perspective on Tom‘s coming out to the family seven years ago, and Elliott and Corey share their own family experiences as well. If you enjoy our show and haven’t yet done […]