When the Attractive Cashier is More Than an Attractive Cashier
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When the Attractive Cashier is More Than an Attractive Cashier

I’ve started fixating on an attractive cashier at a local grocery store. He’s the first thing I look for when the doors whoosh open. My heart drops if I don’t see him, and it drops even further when I do. I talk about A.C. often. I bring him up with my roommates, and I mention him to […]

YOBcast Episode 012: Masturbation, Part 2
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YOBcast Episode 012: Masturbation, Part 2

How do we reckon with masturbation? What triggers us, and how do we not let masturbation dominate our lives? How do we change the culture of sexual conversations (or lack thereof) in the church today? It’s the second in our two-part series on masturbation! Join Tom and Elliott in a discussion on triggers, willpower, and changing […]

YOBcast Episode 011: Masturbation, Part 1
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YOBcast Episode 011: Masturbation, Part 1

What is masturbation? How do we discover masturbation in childhood? Where do we draw the line of morality with masturbation, and what does the Bible say about it — if anything? Masturbation is such a taboo topic in Christian circles, and we talked so much this episode that we actually decided to split this one in two; stay tuned […]

The Futile Fantasy of Straight-Baiting
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The Futile Fantasy of Straight-Baiting

“Straight-baiting” has always fascinated me. If you don’t happen to know this term, it’s the act of tricking a heterosexual individual to engage in homosexual activities. The porn is super profitable, and it’s also a “dating” technique, though “pursuing” tactic may be more appropriate. But what is so desirable about scoring with a guy who’s […]

Sex Isn’t Enough
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Sex Isn’t Enough

“If you want to stop me, now is the time.” My cold hands gripped the steering wheel tight. My vision tunneled toward an unknown destination. With each short breath, my broken heart rattled around my ribcage. This was it. The moment I would finally cross the forbidden line. I was on my way to a stranger’s […]

I’ve Never Wanted to Have Sex with Another Man
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I’ve Never Wanted to Have Sex with Another Man

In all my years of wrestling with same-sex attraction — a physical and emotional attraction I can trace back to first grade — not once have I ever sought out or even remotely desired sex with another man. Deep breath. I realize and must certainly clarify that my story is my story alone. I can’t […]

Losing My Sexual Sobriety
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Losing My Sexual Sobriety

I lost my sexual sobriety a few weeks ago. Just cutting right to the chase — it’s been a hard few weeks. From the start, I knew how risky it was to write so openly about my journey through sexual sobriety. I don’t regret doing so, but I feel all kinds of yucky confessing my […]

100 Days of Sexual Sobriety
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100 Days of Sexual Sobriety

Three months ago, sexual sobriety was an illusion. A fantasy, even. The mere thought of never again web chatting with another dude or watching gay pornography or even masturbating was enough to make me laugh a derisive laugh and say, Yeah, right; dream on, Dreamer. 100 days later, my sexual sobriety still very much feels like […]

I Want to Masturbate with Other Guys
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I Want to Masturbate with Other Guys

One of my biggest lusts and longest lasting fantasies has been to masturbate with other guys. Not have sex with them, not experience any kind of touching or penetration whatsoever — just jack off together, in full view of each other, with no shame, as casually as we would watch TV or fold laundry. While I […]

He Doesn’t Want to be My Friend Anymore
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He Doesn’t Want to be My Friend Anymore

Do you ever wish stories would end at the right moment, right as it gets good? Not stories in books or stories on the screen, but the very stories of your life. You get the job promotion or academic honor and everyone cheers for you, and you never feel more accomplished. You go with loved ones on the best […]