My Straight Friend Was Emotionally Dependent on Me
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My Straight Friend Was Emotionally Dependent on Me

Emotional dependency. Such a fun topic. Many of us SSA (same-sex attracted) brothers know the terminology all too well. We long for human connection with our gender. We feel like no other man understands us. 

No one wants to be near us. No one wants to know us. No one wants to be our friend. […]

How to Handle Male Rejection
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How to Handle Male Rejection

I may have mentioned once or twice (okay, so in a five-part series) that I’ve long had a thing with nudity. It’s been a long and complicated relationship with nudity, and it’s led to some more painful areas. I was living far away from home in another state working a temporary job. It was late spring, […]

YOBcast Episode 022: Living Together
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YOBcast Episode 022: Living Together

Can same-sex attracted guys live together? Is there ever any physical/sexual temptation? Aren’t there at least heavy emotional issues living in the same house? Tom, Elliott, and Bradley gather to discuss one of our most often asked questions: how do you three SSA guys live together in the same house? It’s an enlightening hour of […]

My New Friend Didn’t Tell Me He’s Moving Away
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My New Friend Didn’t Tell Me He’s Moving Away

“Any idea when he’s moving?” My church coworker and friend, Garth, thought I knew the answer to the question. He actually thought I was aware of the move. He’d thought Henry had told me he was moving away. I barely contained my emotions as I responded back, “What?” It was perhaps more forceful than warranted. […]

Permission to Read Our Stories
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Permission to Read Our Stories

I don’t know that I have permission to read these stories. My new friend, Henry, said as a puzzled look hit my face. He must have noticed, because he scratched his chin as he leaned back to consider it. I followed suit, ruminating further. “It’s so personal,” Henry continued. “And I guess I just don’t […]

I Don’t Want My New Friend to Leave Me
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I Don’t Want My New Friend to Leave Me

I met my new friend, Henry, about a year ago. Great guy, my age, married with a daughter slightly older than mine — he was literally another me as far as life situations go. My prayer for connection with someone in my exact life state was placed on a silver platter in my church. In […]

How I Make Friends as an Older Single Guy
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How I Make Friends as an Older Single Guy

As you might know, I am currently the oldest author on Your Other Brothers and a single man with no expectation of marriage. I once overheard a housemate talking about a guy in my situation. He’d said, “I thought he was supposed to be lonely and depressed!” I am an older, single guy, but I […]

The First Time I Contracted an STD
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The First Time I Contracted an STD

Well! We’re back to Matt’s crazy sex stories! It’s been a while since I wrote about my hookups with other guys. As I’ve prefaced in previous posts, if you are unable to read a post like this due to its subject matter, DO NOT READ ANY FURTHER! Okay, now that that’s out of the way […]

When Should I Hug Another Guy?
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When Should I Hug Another Guy?

Like many other guys who deal with same-sex attraction, I really appreciate affection expressed by physical touch. Especially hugs. For me, hugs are never sexual — just a way to show Christian love. But not all guys feel comfortable hugging another guy. So, when should I hug another guy or a male friend? The answer […]

The First Guy Who Ever Held My Hand
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The First Guy Who Ever Held My Hand

Years ago, back when I’d first delved into the world of online SSA friendships, I got to talking with another SSA guy in my area. We commented on each other’s blogs, we friended each other on Facebook, and we traded phone numbers, too. He intimidated me, this guy: attractive and charming and, most of all, […]