YOBcast Episode 015: More Than Our Sexuality
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YOBcast Episode 015: More Than Our Sexuality

We are more than our struggles and our weaknesses. And it’s important to remember the other facets of our being, including our strengths. In this episode, Tom, Elliott, and Bradley gather around for a more upbeat hour, including some get-to-know-you icebreakers and a conversation on personalities and Strengths Finder. Thanks again to our awesome Patreon supporters! If […]

Getting Married … with Same-Sex Attraction
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Getting Married … with Same-Sex Attraction

When I was eighteen, God told me that I would get married one day. I said okay. When I was nineteen, I started making out with my best friend / codependent. Then he and I broke up. When I was twenty, I was fully aware of my homosexual cravings and had no attraction to women […]

Best Friends with a Straight Guy
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Best Friends with a Straight Guy

This is part 1 in my series about my friendship with Justin. Check out  Part 2. I also referenced Justin on episode 6 of the YOBcast. I met Justin about a year after he became a Christian. He had joined the same church I attended, and I got to know him through another friend at church. […]

Are SSA Christians Like Modern-Day Eunuchs?
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Are SSA Christians Like Modern-Day Eunuchs?

We don’t hear much about eunuchs in our day and age. I’d bet most people in my generation don’t even know what a eunuch is. So, to inform everyone, a eunuch is a man who’s had his testicles or his entire genitalia removed, a man employed by some high-ranking official, his castration done to ensure he […]

Enduring Friendship with My Ex-Girlfriend’s Husband
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Enduring Friendship with My Ex-Girlfriend’s Husband

After Brandon and Sarah got married, my friendships with them obviously changed. But they did not end! They regularly invited me to their home for dinner, and they continued to attend my church. Although I never talked to Sarah alone anymore, Brandon and I still shared in depth about our struggles, hopes, and dreams. Our heartfelt male friendship […]

Best Man at My Ex-Girlfriend’s Wedding
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Best Man at My Ex-Girlfriend’s Wedding

The only girl I had ever considered marrying dumped me and fell in love with my closest male friend. It looked more and more like I would lose them both. Clearly, I was at a defining moment in my life; whatever I did now would have a lifelong effect on me. At this point, God […]

Getting a Grip on Masturbation
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Getting a Grip on Masturbation

In a recent post, I declared masturbation not to be a sin. That is my belief based on years of experience, searching, praying, and listening to the Lord. You may disagree with me, and that’s okay. You’re allowed. Whether you believe masturbation to be a sin or not, though, there’s a huge chance that you still jack off anyway from […]

Learning to Worship God, not Guys
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Learning to Worship God, not Guys

After my life-altering decision to follow Jesus Christ and give up on ever having a sexual relationship with another guy, what happened next? My high school years were surprisingly happy and full of powerful spiritual experiences  — and also surprisingly free of sexual baggage. As an introvert, of course I spent a lot of time alone […]

I Want My Brothers to be Happy for Me
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I Want My Brothers to be Happy for Me

My wife and I were watching Supernatural one evening. In one of my favorite episodes, the two brothers are killed, sent to heaven, and then work to escape. I’m sure some context would help, but since four seasons of recaps would take up a little too much time, let’s just pretend that this episode premise is entirely […]

I Just Want You to Be Happy
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I Just Want You to Be Happy

Having same-sex attractions isn’t easy. I really sympathize with people who deal with this issue because I know it’s hard, especially if you come from a religion or society that holds a lot of animosity against people who have SSA. I grew up in a Christian home, and while I never feared being hated or […]