Eugene Peterson, Same-Sex Marriage, and Feeling Invisible in the Church
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Eugene Peterson, Same-Sex Marriage, and Feeling Invisible in the Church

Eugene Peterson — pastor, author of The Message paraphrase Bible — recently made waves in the Christian world. First, he “affirmed” same-sex marriage, then he backtracked, still claiming to believe in “biblical marriage.” LifeWay threatened to pull his books from their stores if he didn’t align his beliefs with theirs, and a day later he did. […]

Losing the Greatest Community of My Life
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Losing the Greatest Community of My Life

Two years ago, I moved away from an incredibly close community of guys. I first met these guys during my first year of Bible college. We all lived in the same dorm, and we grew incredibly close. I disclosed my attraction to the same sex to all of them just a month or two into […]

Male Nudity Will Fix Me
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Male Nudity Will Fix Me

I’ve written about my childhood fascination with nudity and how it led me into the nudist world, making me act out my sexual insecurities. I’d go even deeper into the world of nudism, thinking it’d be the solution to my problems. While I did have a strongly sexual fascination with male nudity, I figured it […]

When the Attractive Cashier is More Than an Attractive Cashier
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When the Attractive Cashier is More Than an Attractive Cashier

I’ve started fixating on an attractive cashier at a local grocery store. He’s the first thing I look for when the doors whoosh open. My heart drops if I don’t see him, and it drops even further when I do. I talk about A.C. often. I bring him up with my roommates, and I mention him to […]

Living (and Dying) in Community
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Living (and Dying) in Community

There are people in my life I don’t like very much. I don’t like talking to them and I don’t like spending much time with them. They wear on me. Our personalities clash. Christians often avoid admitting disliking anyone, especially in their community, but let’s be real here: some people drive us crazy. I don’t always […]

When Friendships Come and Go
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When Friendships Come and Go

As they mature, infants and toddlers begin to understand two things: just because something cannot be seen or experienced does not mean it has ceased to exist, and key people in their lives will eventually return. I, on the other hand, have not come to this understanding, especially regarding friendships. For me, friendships are like […]

My Greatest Fear in Coming Out
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My Greatest Fear in Coming Out

I’m so tired of it all: living two lives isn’t something I can maintain while also living a thriving life. Picking and choosing what I do and what I talk about whether I’m “out” to the person I’m with is terribly exhausting. My last post spoke of a time I overcame my fear and opened up […]

When Male Friendship Dies
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When Male Friendship Dies

This is Part 3 in this friendship series; check out Part 1 and Part 2. I also reference Justin on episode 6 of the YOBcast. When my straight roommate, Justin, learned I dealt with same-sex attraction, he almost ended the friendship right then and there. He saw my obsession with him and that I wanted him to meet all my […]

My Last Time as a Victim of Emotional Dependency
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My Last Time as a Victim of Emotional Dependency

The following is Part Three in this series of posts; click here for Part One and here for Part Two. During the weeks following my awkward and painful confession to my fraternity brother, I continued to ruminate over my disclosure. I wondered if my new friend’s response was genuine. I questioned how much of his response […]

Why I Almost Left YOB
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Why I Almost Left YOB

It’s no secret: I have struggled with blogging the past several months. When YOB started, I was a regular. I was posting pretty much every week. Blog ideas were coming out the wazoo and I was putting them all out there for the readers. I was reliable. Dependable. Always ready to share. And then I […]