YOBcast Rehash: Support Groups
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YOBcast Rehash: Support Groups

Tom and Elliott return for a video rehash of our support groups podcast! Join Tom and Elliott as we walk down a city street filled with old churches for shenanigans and feedback from our recent episode. Thanks again to YOBBER Ryan for appearing on the show! Check out the comments on our podcast episode page, and don’t […]

YOBcast Episode 022: Living Together
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YOBcast Episode 022: Living Together

Can same-sex attracted guys live together? Is there ever any physical/sexual temptation? Aren’t there at least heavy emotional issues living in the same house? Tom, Elliott, and Bradley gather to discuss one of our most often asked questions: how do you three SSA guys live together in the same house? It’s an enlightening hour of […]

My New Friend Didn’t Tell Me He’s Moving Away
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My New Friend Didn’t Tell Me He’s Moving Away

“Any idea when he’s moving?” My church coworker and friend, Garth, thought I knew the answer to the question. He actually thought I was aware of the move. He’d thought Henry had told me he was moving away. I barely contained my emotions as I responded back, “What?” It was perhaps more forceful than warranted. […]

YOBcast Episode 021: Support Groups
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YOBcast Episode 021: Support Groups

Do support groups work? What support groups meet our needs and which ones leave us in longing? What role can men with SSA have in the Church? In this episode, we welcome a very special guest: Ryan, a faithful Patreon supporter of the last year. He joins Tom, Elliott, and Bradley for a discussion on […]

When I Discovered the Korean Spa
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When I Discovered the Korean Spa

In my previous blogs, I’ve written about how my same-sex attraction (SSA) brought about an obsession with nudity, leading me down nudism paths which ultimately led me down many unhealthy paths. Would this odd obsession with nudity lead me anywhere worthwhile? After finding that most nudists I met online were flakey or only interested in […]

Not Interested in a New Machismo
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Not Interested in a New Machismo

Walking into manhood has felt less like an epic saga and more like stumbling drunkenly and blindly through the valley of death and dying. I tried to find my strength, fortitude, and the path to manhood on my own; years later, I still come up short. My feelings of inadequacy pointed to where I was […]

Permission to Read Our Stories
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Permission to Read Our Stories

I don’t know that I have permission to read these stories. My new friend, Henry, said as a puzzled look hit my face. He must have noticed, because he scratched his chin as he leaned back to consider it. I followed suit, ruminating further. “It’s so personal,” Henry continued. “And I guess I just don’t […]

I Wanted a Brother at the Nudist Resort
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I Wanted a Brother at the Nudist Resort

After years of trying to find guys in my area with whom I could be naked and vulnerable, I moved to a new city for a temporary job. Luckily for me, I learned this new city had a lot more nudists — and not just nudists, but nudist resorts and beaches galore! I thought I’d […]

It’s Okay for Men to Cry
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It’s Okay for Men to Cry

Even as I write that title, something within me questions its truth. Is it really acceptable for men to cry? American culture has told me and countless other boys and young men that crying is not manly. Men are supposed to be tough. Crying is for wimps who can’t take the pain. Caring enough to […]

Eugene Peterson, Same-Sex Marriage, and Feeling Invisible in the Church
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Eugene Peterson, Same-Sex Marriage, and Feeling Invisible in the Church

Eugene Peterson — pastor, author of The Message paraphrase Bible — recently made waves in the Christian world. First, he “affirmed” same-sex marriage, then he backtracked, still claiming to believe in “biblical marriage.” LifeWay threatened to pull his books from their stores if he didn’t align his beliefs with theirs, and a day later he did. […]