I’m Not Sorry for My Horrible Start with Jesus
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I’m Not Sorry for My Horrible Start with Jesus

So, my last post was a bit controversial. I shouldn’t have been surprised, but I was! Wow! At least it got you guys talking, with some asking questions for clarification, which was all good in my book. On the other side, I did get a lot of flack, and I got messages saying that I was making […]

I Don’t Want to Stop Watching Porn
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I Don’t Want to Stop Watching Porn

I don’t want to stop watching porn, not really anyway. . You see, porn is a very difficult and complex issue. Often, porn is used as a catch-all phrase so we don’t actually have to be honest about what we are really doing. For example: I call it “porn” when I really spent 3 hours having […]

Refusing to Let God Work Through Me
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Refusing to Let God Work Through Me

So, there’s this guy I know called Garth. He wants to be called Bob on this blog, but that’s not happening; my apologies, Garth. You’ve already heard me mention him. He is my new coworker whom I shared with my SSA struggle and who then encouraged me to go to my current pastor. He’s a great guy. Garth and I […]

I’m Almost 30 and I’ve Never Been Kissed
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I’m Almost 30 and I’ve Never Been Kissed

I recently celebrated a “pre-milestone” sort of birthday: 29. Compared to 16 and 18 and 21, 29 feels like a big number, a big age, an age one might even ascribe as “old.” But I’m giving myself permission to live especially youthfully this year — my last year as a twenty-something. I’m looking forward to lots […]

Can All Christians Agree About Masturbation?
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Can All Christians Agree About Masturbation?

If you go to any group of Christians, especially Christian men, and especially Christian teenagers, and bring up the topic of masturbation, what do you think the number one question is that people are asking and dying to have answered? Is masturbation a sin? Go to any Christian internet forum for teenagers or one that talks […]

An Open Conversation on Masculine Stereotypes
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An Open Conversation on Masculine Stereotypes

Sam: Well hey there! So for those of you who don’t know, Dean recently moved a few hours away from me, and I’m LOVING IT! He’s in town tonight, and we’re currently chilling on my couch. We thought this would be a great time to start a conversation with one of our favorite subjects — masculine stereotypes […]

When Christians Can’t See Through LGBT Eyes
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When Christians Can’t See Through LGBT Eyes

I am in school. No, this is not a flashback story being told as if it were present-day. This is right now. I am in school, working toward a graduate degree in religion. Few things are more fun than being an adult / husband / father / full-time career man also in full-time graduate classes. Imagine […]

A Good Little Christian Boy Goes to Sexaholics Anonymous
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A Good Little Christian Boy Goes to Sexaholics Anonymous

I park on the street and walk around the back of the church, per the instructions on the basic 90’s style website. I reach for the back door handle, and it doesn’t budge. I pull again; still nothing. The doorbell glares at me, and I push it with a reluctant sigh. So this is how my first Sexaholics Anonymous meeting […]

Never Guilty About All My Hookups
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Never Guilty About All My Hookups

Yup! We’re back with the sex stories of my life! Oh lawd! So, I’m going to have to warn everyone again: if you can’t handle stories like this, PLEASE DO NOT READ THIS POST! After my groundbreaking realization of sex, losing my virginity to a 30-year-old random dude and feeling like I was “alive,” I wanted more of […]

How I Inherited Addiction and Shame
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How I Inherited Addiction and Shame

Addiction. I have always been familiar with that word. Growing up, it just seemed normal for people to have addictions. Some of my family members were addicted to nicotine, and others were addicted to alcohol, but everyone seemed to be addicted to something. It seemed one could get by relatively unnoticed if he or she […]