Two Years Together: Introducing Our New Site!

Welcome, friend! If you’re reading this post in your inbox, I encourage you to make the jump to our website. It’s a whole new world. Don’t be alarmed. You’re still at Your Other Brothers. You’re still home. Today’s a special day. Today, we celebrate our 2-year anniversary of being a website! More than a blog, a podcast, and a video hub — a community. And with this special anniversary comes a long overdue overhaul of our website. We’re not at 100% quite yet, but we’re mostly there and will be making site adjustments in the coming days. Take a...

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Happiness for My New Friend Before He Moves Away

“I can’t believe it’s your final day, man.” This was it for my friend, Henry, working at our church. The four weeks since our conversation had passed way too quickly. Henry turned his chair to me, leaned back as he always does, and sighed. I couldn’t tell if it was a sigh of relief or a sigh of grief. Perhaps both. “I know, Dean. I’ve got a few things left on my to-do list, and then I’m out!” He gave me a cheeky grin. I returned the grin. Henry’s departure would be bittersweet. I’m always thankful for God leading my friends...

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I Am an Unlovable Vampire

I lurk among the shadows contemplating my existence. This castle is old, the walls creaking and groaning with the battering of the howling wind. The only soul within this castle is me, and I’d rather it be that way, for I’d rather be alone with my thoughts. Yet at the same time, I don’t want to be this way. I spend countless hours pondering and mourning what I lost or what I never had. Was it rejection by others that put me here? Or was it my own regretful actions? I sit in the dark endlessly pondering what went...

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YOBcast Episode 024: Temptation

What triggers us and how do we reckon with temptation? What’s the difference between a trigger and a temptation, and how do we face temptation during moments of weakness and vulnerability? Tom and Elliott welcome Bradley and Matt for a vulnerable conversation on triggers and temptation. We dive into the HALT acronym (hungry, angry, lonely, tired) as we discuss our most triggering situations, and we chat about temptation — including how we wage against temptation after pushing the line further and further. Many thanks to our YOBBERS — financial backers of Your Other Brothers who supply excellent questions and...

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When Self-Reliance Was My Norm

Honestly, I would rather not go back to middle school — but telling my story necessitates that we journey back to those days. I’m in eighth grade. Academia and band consume most of my time and thoughts. I’m not competitive and find gym class … uncomfortable. So, I stick to what I know: books, formulas, music, and people. Outside school, I go to church, mostly because it’s what the family does and I have generic good feelings about it. But it’s not where my friends are by any means. Into this life-stage comes a series of pivotal moments: 1...

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Finding Confidence Through Friendship

A couple years ago, my pastor and I grabbed coffee at Starbucks. “How’s your week been?” he asked as we sat down, me with my hot green tea and him with a cup of coffee. “I’ve had a few rough days this week,” I replied hesitantly. “School is stressing me out, and figuring out my plans for college next year isn’t making it any better.” “How about your struggle? Anything I can pray for in that area?” Having people like my pastor make an effort to know how I’m doing while genuinely caring about me has been monumental as...

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The Thing I Learned from My Friend’s Addiction

This is the fourth part in the story of my eventful and often strange friendship with Jake. You can read Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3. As soon as I met Jake, I saw that he had issues with drug and alcohol addiction. I knew his addiction could get worse, but I had no idea how far he would fall and how badly he would affect the people around him. How should I navigate a friend’s extreme addiction? Once after Jake stayed at my house, I found signs that he was abusing prescription painkillers. He admitted to using them,...

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Maybe God Brought Me Here Just to Meet You

“Maybe God brought me here just to meet you,” my new friend, Henry, said plainly. “I mean, it’s probably not just for that reason, but who knows?” ~ ~ ~ My coworker, Garth, came back into the office and sat on the couch across from me with Henry in the room. “Hey, Henry, anything exciting happen over the weekend?” Garth shot me a wink. Looked like he was gonna try to pry the truth out of Henry. Without even turning around, Henry responded, “Eh, not really.” Garth looked at me with a massive grin on his face. I couldn’t help but...

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