YOBcast Episode 023: Pornography

What is pornography? How early did we discover pornography, how has it evolved over the generations, and how do we combat it? Tom and Elliott welcome back Marshall for a long overdue conversation on pornography — particularly gay pornography. We discuss the definition of the term, our first exposures to pornography, and what we do about it. Many thanks to our YOBBERS — financial backers of Your Other Brothers who always supply such excellent questions and content for each episode. We truly couldn’t do this show twice a month without y’all! Subscribe to our show on iTunes! You can...

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My Straight Friend Was Emotionally Dependent on Me

Emotional dependency. Such a fun topic. Many of us SSA (same-sex attracted) brothers know the terminology all too well. We long for human connection with our gender. We feel like no other man understands us. 

No one wants to be near us. No one wants to know us. No one wants to be our friend. We’re too awkward. Too different. Too messy. And yet we learn that isn’t always the case. We find that guy in our church, work, or small group who gets us — or, at the very least, takes an interest in us as a person. Someone...

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How to Handle Male Rejection

I may have mentioned once or twice (okay, so in a five-part series) that I’ve long had a thing with nudity. It’s been a long and complicated relationship with nudity, and it’s led to some more painful areas. I was living far away from home in another state working a temporary job. It was late spring, and I was feeling very glum and lonely. My roommates for the fall semester didn’t take too much of a liking to me and had all moved out to live with people they liked better. Therefore, I was dumped in an apartment with strangers...

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YOBcast Episode 022: Living Together

Can same-sex attracted guys live together? Is there ever any physical/sexual temptation? Aren’t there at least heavy emotional issues living in the same house? Tom, Elliott, and Bradley gather to discuss one of our most often asked questions: how do you three SSA guys live together in the same house? It’s an enlightening hour of conversation! As always, we thank our Patreon supporters for this episode’s content. We couldn’t record, produce, and publish this show without you. Thanks for fueling our show with fantastic questions. Thank you, YOBBERS! If you love the YOBcast and believe in everything else we’re...

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My New Friend Didn’t Tell Me He’s Moving Away

“Any idea when he’s moving?” My church coworker and friend, Garth, thought I knew the answer to the question. He actually thought I was aware of the move. He’d thought Henry had told me he was moving away. I barely contained my emotions as I responded back, “What?” It was perhaps more forceful than warranted. But perhaps not. ~ ~ ~ “One of the posts was about Father’s Day,” Henry responded. “It was pretty good.” “Oh, yeah,” I responded with a broad smile. “I read that one, too.” I turned around for a moment. Looks like I wouldn’t be...

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YOBcast Episode 021: Support Groups

Do support groups work? What support groups meet our needs and which ones leave us in longing? What role can men with SSA have in the Church? In this episode, we welcome a very special guest: Ryan, a faithful Patreon supporter of the last year. He joins Tom, Elliott, and Bradley for a discussion on support groups, including some insight on the small group he leads in Raleigh. As always, we thank all of our Patreon supporters. This episode — and every episode — would not be possible without you. You fuel our show with comments, questions, and fantastic...

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Not Interested in a New Machismo

Walking into manhood has felt less like an epic saga and more like stumbling drunkenly and blindly through the valley of death and dying. I tried to find my strength, fortitude, and the path to manhood on my own; years later, I still come up short. My feelings of inadequacy pointed to where I was wounded and by whom. My dad made it clear that my mannerisms made me different, and there my obsession began. Years of self-correction amounted to nothing and my effeminate mannerisms gave away my secret shame. I was not masculine and had no idea how...

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Permission to Read Our Stories

I don’t know that I have permission to read these stories. My new friend, Henry, said as a puzzled look hit my face. He must have noticed, because he scratched his chin as he leaned back to consider it. I followed suit, ruminating further. “It’s so personal,” Henry continued. “And I guess I just don’t feel like I can relate to it. I’m not part of that community. I don’t have that struggle. It gives me insight, for sure. But I can only see so much before it feels like I’m intruding.” The pieces started sliding together. “So, you...

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