Why do we choose a traditional, “Side B” sexual ethic as men who follow Jesus? Do we choose this life solely for our convictions or in spite of them? Do we live out a gay/SSA celibate life with joy or in angst and suffering?

Tom welcomes Ryan and Matt for a discussion on why we’re Side B, as opposed to “Side A” (gay-affirming), and where these labels even come from. We include some formerly Side A perspectives within our community and dive into the challenges we face as gay/SSA men of faith. We also theorize on the percentage of Side B believers who suffer from internalized homophobia. #hottake

Additionally, we talk about our recent authors’ retreat, our new bonus podcast, longboarding, the rains and hail of New Mexico, and of course some #YOBfashion with our resident style-master general, Matt.

You can listen below to our newest episode on WHY SIDE B. We hope you enjoy it! Don’t forget to comment with your Side B stories. We’d love to hear from you.

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Enjoy the episode below! And don’t forget to comment: why are you Side B? Have you ever been “Side A” or gay-affirming? What brought you to a new conviction? What’s your greatest challenge being Side B? Pull up a chair, and tell us a story.



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