It’s an undoubtedly difficult season for many in our community, and we talk about singleness during the holidays: the disconnect, the loneliness, and the finding of hope and joy when hope and joy may feel so far away.

Tom, Ryan, and Jacob share their stories of holidays past and present, answering some listener questions along the way, including the concept of spending the holidays with chosen family versus blood family, and whether we’ve ever been asked if we’ve found that “special lady” yet.

We also talk to Jacob about his reaction to our last episode in which we featured the story of his coming out to his older brother, Nate. And since it’s Christmas, Tom hands out some specially themed “love language presents” to his dear brothers. They’re sure to enjoy them this Christmas.

It’s our year-ending, decade-ending, holiday-themed extravaganza of a podcast!

Our current podcast production schedule is one public episode and one private episode per month, the latter available exclusively to our patrons on Patreon. Pledging even $1/month grants you access to The YOBaLOGUE, our 30-minute bonus podcast that features listener feedback, bloopers, one “brother beat” segment, and other cut content from this episode. Check out our Patreon page below for more information!

As always, we thank our YOBBERS — financial backers of Your Other Brothers who supply our show with phenomenal content. We couldn’t produce a podcast twice monthly without our faithful YOBBERS! Your support and contributions mean so much.

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Enjoy our HOLIDAY SINGLENESS episode! And don’t forget to comment/vent below. We’d love to hear from you. We’re with you.

How do you feel about the holidays this year? Has it changed any from previous years? In what active ways can we healthily practice both lament and joy this holiday season?


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