Many gay/SSA folks experience a delayed or “second adolescence” in adulthood after keeping our sexuality secret in our first adolescence when we unconsciously adapted to the heteronormative culture around us. When we finally do find safe masculine circles, whether within YOB or elsewhere, conversational topics like sex or masturbation, or shared male experiences like nudity and cuddling hold great appeal — if not laced with some of that adolescent immaturity or a tinge (or bucketload) of obsession.
But second adolescence is more than just talking too much about penises or underwear. What about dealing with the heartache of other male friends, particularly other “Side B” ones, who have hurt us? What about our lack of Side B peers or role models growing up? How has what we lacked in our first adolescence affected our lives and growth today?
Join Tom, Ben, and Will for a dispersed yet also focused look at this phenomena of “second adolescence,” finally putting a name to this nebulous thing that we’ve all noticed in our community and in ourselves for years!
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
- Will’s blog, “‘Handsome Devil,’ a Side B Sleeper Hit?”
- Ben’s blog, “Naked and Unashamed in the Locker Room”
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
Can you relate with this concept of “second adolescence” in adulthood? How would you describe your original adolescence, and how has what you experienced (or did not) affected your growth today?