We continue our Enneagram ConvoCast series with Mr. Nine and longtime cohost of the YOBcast: Ryan! Ryan shares with Tom his motivations, fears, stress, and security as a Type Nine (the Peacemaker). As a member of our YOB community, how does his Nine-ness manifest in the realms of sexuality, masculinity, and relating with other men?
Ryan compares himself to how Julia Roberts orders eggs in Runaway Bride, and he also pleads with other types to let him just enjoy his wrong restaurant order! He discusses the Nine’s ability to “merge” with other people’s passions and personalities in a loss of personal identity, and we read some extensive YOBBER feedback that exchanges “peace” for “unity” as a Nine’s primary motivator. We discuss some other feedback about coming out publicly as a Nine versus coming out selectively to “keep the peace.” What happens at a church after Ryan comes out and serves in the children’s ministry, and some parents are acting a little off? Finally, Ryan shares about the Nine’s fear of neediness as he reacts to the neediness in others.
Listen to our full Enneagram conversation! And be sure to follow us these next few weeks as we dial around the Enneagram and talk to each type in our community!
LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
- Truity’s Enneagram test
- Truity’s Type 9 Enneagram overview
- Enneagram Gift’s Type 9 in stress and growth
COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE
Are you an Enneagram Nine? How have you grown as a Nine in relation to your sexuality and masculinity?