We continue the Head Triad portion of our Enneagram ConvoCast series with YOBcast regular, Aaron! Aaron shares his motivations, fears, stress, and security as a Type Six (the Loyalist or Skeptic). As a member of our YOB community, how does his Six-ness manifest in the realms of sexuality, masculinity, and relating with other men?

Aaron discusses the anxiety surrounding his sexuality through the years, including coming out to others as an adult and coming out to himself in high school. He also shares openly about taking medication to help with his anxiety. Throughout the episode we read lots of YOBBER feedback, much of it centering around anxious attachment with other men: how much ongoing reassurance is needed for the relationship, and how much is unhealthy? We talk a lot about fear in this episode, particularly relational fear and this ability to live out a Side B life, but also of courage and comfortability and the Six’s ability to be incredibly loyal and steadfast! Perhaps if YOB and the greater “Side B” movement endure through the years, Type Sixes will be a big reason why.

Listen to our full Enneagram conversation, and be sure to follow us as we soon finish dialing around the Enneagram types in our community!



Are you an Enneagram Six? How have you grown as a Six in relation to your sexuality and masculinity?

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