YOB’s second value of humility follows on the heels of hope: a lowly acorn under a star in the night sky. A place of patience and constant surrender as we wait and trust for a greater story beyond anything we could write for ourselves. Join Tom, Ben, and Will for a discussion of what humility is and what humility isn’t; of pride, shame, self-deprecation, and more competing terms. Plus, we callback our last episode differentiating hope vs. expectation.
When I’m not wandering, I live in Asheville, North Carolina – the Jewel of the Blue Ridge. I’m YOB’s cofounder and editor, and I also host our two podcasts. I’ve written a couple books as Thomas Mark Zuniga, including a 2013 memoir in which I first came out. Once upon another universe I anonymously blogged about my faith and sexuality under the Xanga username, twoBeckonings. I’m an INFJ, Enneagram 4w5, and my spirit animal is the buffalo. I love to travel, and my favorite place in the world is the one where coffee and vulnerability meet.
Call me Ben, or call me Beamer. I am in my early thirties, married, pastoring in the Midwest, and Jesus is my reason for living. I’m either an ENFJ or ENFP. My Enneagram is 2 or 6 depending on the day. I am a chameleon – being who I need to be to care for others. Most of my favorite activities center on being with people in any outdoors setting, whether hiking a mountain trail or simply lying in a hammock and drinking a beer.
Greetings from the friendly country of Canada. While writing this bio I am drinking a French press coffee and listening to Arcade Fire on vinyl with my prayer journal, a pile of books, a piano, and a typewriter beside me. Some may say I am a hipster, but I do not really like culturally constructed identities in an attempt to place my personality in a box. I read a lot of theology and philosophy, and I do much research in that area (it’s kind of my job). When I’m feeling particularly adventurous and motivated, I will watch a hockey game and drink a beer with my friends – like every good Canadian.
Thanks for the Humility Podcast!
Tom, I seriously love when you breakout of the podcast and talk quietly, reading scripture or telling a story with music playing in the background. Looking forward to the rest of the seven. Peace my brother.
Thanks for the feedback, Aaron! I enjoy putting together those benedictions. Grateful for them to land with you and any who listen. Be blessed, and walk in HUMILITY.
Thank you for an excellent discussion on humility and what it is and isn’t. I think this is one of the best podcast episodes that YOB has ever produced!
As for submitting to God’s plans for my life, over the past 12 months I have felt more sure that ever about God’s call for me to live a celibate life, a journey which started over 30 years ago. That decision has coincided with the end of a 5 year consultation in the Church of England on identity, sexuality, relationships and marriage which involved everyone in the church who was willing to participate. (I took part.) The bishops, who were tasked with drawing conclusions from the consultation: firstly, apologised, quite rightly, for the church’s homophobia and exclusion and rejection of queer Christians in the past; left untouched the existing restriction of marriage in church to opposite sex couples; but also put forward prayers which priests may use to bless and affirm same -sex relationships. These decisions have now been ratified by a majority vote in all three houses of General Synod.
I think the bishops were genuinally attempting to hold together a church which could yet fracture on the issue of gay marriage. In the event they appear to have enraged some conservative Christians, whilst some affirming groups seem to think that after ‘one more heave’, or a few more heaves, they will get gay marriage in the Church of England over the line.
One problem for me is that, unlike the study materials, the bishops’ conclusions make no mention of, do no commend, and make no apparent provision for, Christians who are same-sex attracted but live a celibate/side B life. It is possible that further pastoral provisions will make up this deficiency, but at the moment I feel very marginalised. I imagine that others in my situation feel the same.
In this situation, YOB is, more than ever, an important ally. I remain very grateful for your ministry. Please could you remember the Church of England in your prayers at this time. YOB remains, as ever, in my prayers.
First off, Ian, thanks for the love for this episode! I thought it was a great conversation as well. I’m blessed by Ben and Will (and the other guys) coming on these episodes with me. I thought the feedback from our community was just excellent this episode as well! Secondly, I’ll be praying for you and fellow UK community members. That the Lord meets you in the margins and you find comfort there. It’s where Jesus loved going best, and I pray you encounter him there.
Thank you for your encouragement, Tom. YOB is indeed blessed with excellent contributors to the podcasts and the community!