About Me

I like to stare at the stars and when I'm feeling adventurous, into the sun. I'm a bit silly and somewhat scattered. Give me a time machine and I'd have dinner with Jesus and John Lennon. And when life gives me lemons, I run, because I hate fruit pies! But what is it that makes me extraordinary, wonderfully and fearfully made? I don't know, but I want to the One who does. Will you come?

YOBcast Episode 024: Temptation
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YOBcast Episode 024: Temptation

What triggers us and how do we reckon with temptation? What’s the difference between a trigger and a temptation, and how do we face temptation during moments of weakness and vulnerability? Tom and Elliott welcome Bradley and Matt for a vulnerable conversation on triggers and temptation. We dive into the HALT acronym (hungry, angry, lonely, […]

YOBcast Episode 022: Living Together
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YOBcast Episode 022: Living Together

Can same-sex attracted guys live together? Is there ever any physical/sexual temptation? Aren’t there at least heavy emotional issues living in the same house? Tom, Elliott, and Bradley gather to discuss one of our most often asked questions: how do you three SSA guys live together in the same house? It’s an enlightening hour of […]

Not Interested in a New Machismo
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Not Interested in a New Machismo

Walking into manhood has felt less like an epic saga and more like stumbling drunkenly and blindly through the valley of death and dying. I tried to find my strength, fortitude, and the path to manhood on my own; years later, I still come up short. My feelings of inadequacy pointed to where I was […]

YOBcast Episode 020: Manliness
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YOBcast Episode 020: Manliness

What is manliness? Who modeled manliness for us? Is there a one-size-fits-all model for manliness in today’s culture? As always, we thank our faithful Patreon supporters. This episode — and every episode — would not be possible without you. You fuel our show with comments, questions, and fantastic perspectives. Thank you, YOBBERS! If you love […]

YOBcast Episode 018: Sports
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YOBcast Episode 018: Sports

Some boys find success and belonging in the world of sports. Many others do not. How do our sports experiences of the past impact us today? In this episode, Tom and Elliott welcome back Bradley for a lively conversation about sports: our greatest triumphs, our worst disasters, and what it all means moving forward. As […]

When Friendships Come and Go
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When Friendships Come and Go

As they mature, infants and toddlers begin to understand two things: just because something cannot be seen or experienced does not mean it has ceased to exist, and key people in their lives will eventually return. I, on the other hand, have not come to this understanding, especially regarding friendships. For me, friendships are like […]

YOBcast Episode 015: More Than Our Sexuality
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YOBcast Episode 015: More Than Our Sexuality

We are more than our struggles and our weaknesses. And it’s important to remember the other facets of our being, including our strengths. In this episode, Tom, Elliott, and Bradley gather around for a more upbeat hour, including some get-to-know-you icebreakers and a conversation on personalities and Strengths Finder. Thanks again to our awesome Patreon supporters! If […]

YOBcast Episode 014: Emotional Dependency, Part 2
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YOBcast Episode 014: Emotional Dependency, Part 2

How do we endure the weightiness of emotional dependency, and how do we move beyond our emotional dependency? The conversation continues in the second part of this two-part episode on emotional dependency, featuring Tom, Elliott, Marshall, Corey, and Bradley. In this episode, Tom, Elliott, and Marshall share their personal stories of emotional dependency, and we discuss […]

YOBcast Episode 013: Emotional Dependency, Part 1
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YOBcast Episode 013: Emotional Dependency, Part 1

What is emotional dependency? How do we avoid falling emotionally dependent on another man for our survival, and how do we recover when we cross that line? It’s the first in a two-part episode on emotional dependency — or “emodep,” as we so lovingly call it. Join Tom and Elliott along with Corey, Marshall, and […]

Why I Used to Hate Sports
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Why I Used to Hate Sports

I fully expect a mob of YOBBERS to tie me to the whipping post when I say this, but I love sports and I love competition. I love the push, the struggle, the fight toward victory. I love the way my chest burns when I am on the brink of exhaustion and the tiny voice […]