Thomas Mark Zuniga

Chronic wanderer and melancholic delighter in the what-comes-next. I'm YOB's cofounder and editor, and I also host our podcast. I've written a couple books and first started fleshing out my story of faith and same-sex attraction years ago under the Xanga username "Two Beckonings." I'm an INFJ, Enneagram Type 4, and my favorite place is the one where coffee and vulnerability meet. Feel free to reach out if we've yet to connect; maybe it was ever ago planned that we one day would?

I’m Almost 30 and I’ve Never Been Kissed

Among myriad other losses I could mourn about, I consider how I’m almost 30 and ache over this lack-of-experience that I’ve never been kissed.

A Good Little Christian Boy Goes to Sexaholics Anonymous

Sexaholics Anonymous fits perfectly into my life now. It doesn’t matter who you are or where you come from, only that you have a desire to stop lusting.

What is an Addict?

Today marks a special and pivotal turning point here at Your Other Brothers. For the last four-plus months, we’ve been bringing you four blog posts a week from me and my same-sex attracted brothers the world over. We’ve seen incremental site growth from week to week and month to month, and lately it’s starting to feel like […]

5 Times I’ve Felt Like a Man

So often I lament my lifelong disconnect from the male species and my own innate lack of manhood, I tend to neglect or even forget the numerous times I have felt like a man.

Why I’m Afraid to Take Off My Shirt

Somewhere around seventh grade, I told my family I hated swimming. The real reason was just too silly and shameful. I hated having to take off my shirt.

Who’s in Your Deep Dark Secret Club?

Back when I was blogging anonymously about same-sex attraction and other struggles, I coined my own term: my Deep Dark Secret Club. They knew everything.

I’ve Always Wanted a Big Brother

My whole life I’ve wanted the love of a big brother. I’ve always wanted to press into someone bigger than me, someone stronger, someone wiser. A big brother to hold me, a big brother to comfort me, a big brother to tell me everything will be okay because he’s right there and he’s not going to let me go.