About The Author

Thomas Mark Zuniga

Chronic wanderer and melancholic delighter in the what-comes-next. I'm the cofounder and editor for YOB, and I also host our bimonthly podcast: the YOBcast. I've written a couple books and first started fleshing out my story of faith and same-sex attraction years ago under the Xanga username "Two Beckonings." I'm an INFJ, Enneagram Type 4, and my favorite place is the one where coffee and vulnerability meet. Feel free to reach out if we've yet to connect; maybe it was ever ago planned that we one day would?

YOBcast Episode 022: Living Together

Can same-sex attracted guys live together? Is there ever any physical/sexual temptation? Aren’t there at least heavy emotional issues living in the same house? Tom, Elliott, and Bradley gather to discuss one of our most often asked questions: how do you three SSA guys live together in the same house? It’s an enlightening hour of […]

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YOBcast Rehash: Manliness

Tom and Elliott return for a rehash of our manliness podcast episode! It was our most critical episode yet, and we dive into some of the criticism. Check out the comments on our podcast episode page, and don’t forget to comment on future episodes for the chance to appear in a YOBcast Rehash video! You can […]

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YOBcast Rehash: 1-Year Podcast Anniversary

Welcome to another episode of the YOBcast Rehash! In this episode, Tom and Elliott roam the grounds of a golf course to answer questions and respond to feedback from our 1-Year Podcast Anniversary episode of the YOBcast. The biggest question: pushing that big red button to reset our sexuality. We had a lot of fascinating […]

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YOBcast Episode 021: Support Groups

Do support groups work? What support groups meet our needs and which ones leave us in longing? What role can men with SSA have in the Church? In this episode, we welcome a very special guest: Ryan, a faithful Patreon supporter of the last year. He joins Tom, Elliott, and Bradley for a discussion on […]

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YOBcast Episode 020: Manliness

What is manliness? Who modeled manliness for us? Is there a one-size-fits-all model for manliness in today’s culture? As always, we thank our faithful Patreon supporters. This episode — and every episode — would not be possible without you. You fuel our show with comments, questions, and fantastic perspectives. Thank you, YOBBERS! If you love […]

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YOBcast Rehash: Sports

Join Tom and Elliott on our second episode of the YOBcast Rehash! Click here if you missed our premiere episode on gay perceptions. In this episode, we rehash some feedback from our sports podcast episode — while walking through a babbling brook, no less! And don’t worry: we talk about that name that some people […]

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The First Guy Who Ever Tried to Kiss Me

I’ve written before about having never been kissed. But that doesn’t mean someone’s never tried to kiss me. Back when I was befriending this fellow blogger who liked to hold my hand, I’d had fantasies about what it would be like: kissing him, fooling around in my car. Never anything romantic or long-term — just […]

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YOBcast Episode 019: 1-Year Podcast Anniversary!

It’s hard to believe the YOBcast has now existed for an entire year! In this special anniversary episode, Tom and Elliott and six additional blogging brothers unite for a fun hour of reminiscing over the last year and ponder the age-old question: if you could push a big red button and erase your homosexuality, would you […]

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YOBcast Rehash: Gay Perceptions

Starting today, we’re launching a new bimonthly show on YouTube (YOBTube?!). Thanks to our faithful supporters on Patreon, we’ll start recapping our podcast episodes in video form! For our first YOBcast Rehash, Tom and Elliott discuss feedback on our recent “gay perceptions” episodes. Thanks to all who commented on those podcast episode posts! Be sure to […]

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YOBcast Episode 018: Sports

Some boys find success and belonging in the world of sports. Many others do not. How do our sports experiences of the past impact us today? In this episode, Tom and Elliott welcome back Bradley for a lively conversation about sports: our greatest triumphs, our worst disasters, and what it all means moving forward. As […]

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