About The Author

Thomas Mark Zuniga

Chronic wanderer and melancholic delighter in the what-comes-next. I'm the cofounder and editor for YOB, and I also host our bimonthly podcast: the YOBcast. I've written a couple books and first started fleshing out my story of faith and same-sex attraction years ago under the Xanga username "Two Beckonings." I'm an INFJ, Enneagram Type 4, and my favorite place is the one where coffee and vulnerability meet. Feel free to reach out if we've yet to connect; maybe it was ever ago planned that we one day would?

Why We Value Humility

In this episode of Manly Monday, Tom talks about the second of our five YOB values — humility. In humility, we learn to look beyond ourselves and our stories as we trust another Author with a bigger story. In humility, we fight against what fiercely interferes with our relationship with our Maker: pride.

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More Than Our Sexuality, Part 2

We love talking about meaningful, rarely discussed topics on this podcast; sometimes, though, it’s just good to laugh. We are more than our struggles, more than our weaknesses, and more than our sexuality. Tom and Elliott welcome back Frank and Joel for a follow-up to one of our more “controversial” episodes.

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The Fetish I Can’t Talk About

I have a fetish, and I’ve had one for about as long as I can remember. I have a “thing” that, in itself, isn’t quite sexual in nature. But I fetishize that thing. I idolize it a lot, fantasizing for this thing, turning what was never meant to be sexualized on a dial that was never meant to be dialed.

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When Hope Feels Frail

In this episode of Manly Monday, Tom talks about the first of our five YOB values — hope. Though hope often feels frail, even a little bit of hope is just as potent and powerful as a lot. Watch the video for more on our first value, including why Tom likes to write this word on himself.

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YOBcast Episode 030: Physical Touch, Part 2

Tom and Elliott welcome back Bradley for the continuation of our physical touch podcast — along with a very special guest! We talk about the perception of touch in America versus touch around the world, and we dive into touch as babies to touch as older men. Why is touch — and lack thereof — so critical?

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A Man Who Falls Seven Times

Welcome to our second episode of Manly Monday! In this episode, Tom talks about his experience at a faith and sexuality conference, including a man who falls seven times — and what happens to him after the seventh fall.

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YOBcast Episode 029: Physical Touch, Part 1

There is power in touch — especially, it seems, among men with same-sex attraction. How do we healthily receive, give, and manage physical touch? We talk about physical touch as one of the five primary “love languages” and discuss our journeys with physical touch among other men.

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YOBcast Episode 028: Labels

Everyone uses labels to make sense of the world. But when do sexual identity labels do more damage than good? What parts of the story are sacrificed for our insistent labels? Tom and Elliott welcome back Frank for a serious discussion on Side A, Side B, and our journeys with labels.

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