About Me

Chronic wanderer, melancholic delighter in the what-comes-next. I'm the cofounder and editor for YOB, and I also host the YOBcast twice a month. In 2013, I wrote my first book, Struggle Central, a collection of my messy memoirs; in 2017, I wrote my second book, Running To, a collection of travel memoirs sprinkled with the messy. I first started fleshing out my story of faith and same-sex attraction in 2008 on Xanga under the username "Two Beckonings." I'm an INFJ, Enneagram Type 4 -- which basically means I'm emotional and creative and yearn for that which I cannot have. But I firmly believe anticipation is the purest form of pleasure, so I deal. I've lived in Pennsylvania, Georgia, California, and North Carolina, working with youth in tutoring, summer camps, wilderness therapy, and a therapeutic boarding school. I now work full-time with YOB, editing blogs, hosting podcasts, and creating video content that connects and inspires. My favorite place is the one where coffee and vulnerability meet, and I never tire of hearing from folks who find our site and realize they're not alone in their journeys with faith and sexuality. Feel free to reach out if we've never connected; I'd love to hear from you. tom@yourotherbrothers.com

Christians Struggling With Homosexuality
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Christians Struggling With Homosexuality

Once upon a time, a Google search changed the direction of my life. A dramatic claim, perhaps, but it’s true. If I had to slice my life in two, the line would go through October 2008 — pre-Google search and post-Google search. Alone in my bedroom at my parents’ house, I fired up my laptop and instead of searching for gay porn […]