BLOG ARCHIVE

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  • And We’re Back! Welcome to the New YOB.
    And We’re Back! Welcome to the New YOB.
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    After planning a digital retreat for our supporters, enjoying a few weeks of some holiday rest, and rebuilding our website with a new theme, we're finally ready to get back into a regular rhythm with our content! Thank you for your patience, dear readers and
  • A YOB Break Followed by a Whole New YOB!
    A YOB Break Followed by a Whole New YOB!
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    If you're a regular YOB reader/listener, you may have noticed things growing a bit dark here lately with not as many blogs or podcasts being published or produced. We've hit the pause button beyond the holidays, preparing for what we hope will be a fantastic 2021: more regularity with blogs and podcasts, new authors and podcast voices, a new store page with YOB products, along with a brand new
  • All I Want for Christmas is ... Physical Touch
    All I Want for Christmas is … Physical Touch
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    Physical touch isn't even one of my love languages, but it doesn't have to be. Humans are meant to have regular physical interaction with others. When the pandemic started, I became acutely aware that physical touch would be more rare than it already was in my life. I've experienced physical touch a total of seven times in almost a
  • I Suck at Self-Control
    I Suck at Self-Control
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    My issues with self-control go well beyond the typical desires of hunger, attraction, sleep, and so on. It goes into my struggle to pause before acting – at
  • I Made Out With My Best Man the Night Before My Wedding
    I Made Out with My Best Man the Night Before My Wedding
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    The night before my wedding, Elias and I shared a bed as we had done many times before. But this particular night a cruel sadness hung over us. A sense of finality to it all. We both knew everything would change after this night. We knew there wouldn't be any more nights of cuddles and waking up beside each other; we knew this was the peak of our physical
  • When Will I Escape This Valley of Apathy?
    When Will I Escape This Valley of Apathy?
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    Whatever the reason, this is where I find myself: apathetic toward the Church, God, and disciplines like reading Scripture and prayer. I'm not angry at the Church -- just apathetic. And in that apathy I feel ordinarily strong convictions
  • I Am Not a Gentle Person
    I Am Not a Gentle Person
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    For many years gentleness was a foreign concept to me. Even after actually coming to know Christ in college, I still didn't get gentleness. Jesus turned over tables in the temple – aren't we supposed to do the
  • The First Guy I Ever Cuddled With
    The First Guy I Ever Cuddled With
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    Why didn't I have a friend like that to fulfill over two decades of touch-deprivation? Or was I even right to long for touch like that? Did that sort of touch between two men cross a line? Could two men cuddle without sinning or pushing
  • Surviving the Culture War as a "Side B" Believer
    Surviving the Culture War as a “Side B” Believer
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    In my years before finding Your Other Brothers, coming to terms with my sexuality was extremely difficult as it seemed there were only two options for my future. These two options reflected the polarized extremes embodying the culture