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It's Okay for Men to Cry
It’s Okay for Men to Cry
Is it really acceptable for men to cry? American culture has told me and countless other boys and young men that crying is not manly.
Eugene Peterson, Same-Sex Marriage, and Feeling Invisible in the Church
Eugene Peterson, Same-Sex Marriage, and Feeling Invisible in the Church
This isn't about same-sex marriage. It's not even about Eugene Peterson or LifeWay. It's about a significant sliver of stories going untold.
Real Men Mow Their Own Lawns
Real Men Mow Their Own Lawns
I realized something while mowing my lawn: I was the only one pitying myself. The only person doubting my masculinity was me.
The First Guy Who Ever Held My Hand
The First Guy Who Ever Held My Hand
He reached for my hand and held it. It was the first time another guy had ever held my hand. His boldness caught me off-guard, and his touch sent energy rushes all over. I'd never felt this before: holding hands with another man. In public, no less.
My Complicated Relationship with Nudity
My Complicated Relationship with Nudity
I've never much desired sexual intercourse with men. Throughout my life, however, my erotic thoughts and desires have centered almost entirely on nudity.
My Greatest Fear in Coming Out
My Greatest Fear in Coming Out
Sometimes it’s as if "coming out" and getting rid of the wall between my same-sex attractions and the rest of me will somehow make my sexuality more real.
Growing Up as a Pastor's Kid with SSA
Growing Up as a Pastor’s Kid with SSA
Growing up as a pastor's kid, I hid my homosexuality because I didn't want my father or my family to know that I was a "mistake."
I'll Never Have a Childhood Best Friend
I’ll Never Have a Childhood Best Friend
It's not just that I never had a childhood best friend; it's that I'll never have a childhood best friend. That era has come and gone, that chapter closed.
Real Men Fix Things
Real Men Fix Things
And then my wife came up the stairs and saw me in my deplorable state. I was attempting to fix the bathtub plumbing. And losing.
Real Men Don't Take Baths
Real Men Don’t Take Baths
"How could you take a bath?" The question seemed ludicrous to me. I walked a lot that day. I was tired. My legs were sore. The bath was hot. This guy is a genuinely nice guy who loves God. But he's bought into a delusional sense of masculinity based more on actions than identity.
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