It all began many years ago in our most desperate hour . . .
Locked away in our bedrooms with nowhere else to turn, we turned to Google and typed those four now pivotal words:
“Christians struggling with homosexuality.”
What we found would change our lives forever: a community of men blogging anonymously on Xanga. They wrote boldly of their journeys with faith and homosexuality, and their stories spoke something powerful to our long starving hearts.
We were not alone.
One by one, we found this community and joined the fold; one by one, our community grew. For five years, our digital stories sprouted all over the world, and we forged unlikely friendships with one another — unlikely for our geographic locations, though quite likely for our similar struggles, passions, and faith.
When Xanga closed its doors, our community suffered a blow. Some of us maintained contact via social media, and some even started new blogs. But our collective community would never be the same.
Everything changed a couple years ago when several of us convened for a weekend retreat, most of us meeting for the very first time. Our weekend together was like something from a storybook — tucked high into the mountains, we rediscovered the force and unique beauty of our brotherhood.
We left the mountains blessed by our renewed brotherhood but burdened all the same: what about everyone else still struggling to reconcile their journeys with faith and homosexuality? If they turned to Google as we did all those years ago, what — who — would they find?
Returning to our respective homes all over the country, we resolved it our duty to recreate our blogging community of old. To open our arms for the lost, lonely, and hopeless. To tell our stories once again, affirming to a new generation of Internet searchers what we once heard told us all those years ago:
You are not alone.
And so, we launched Your Other Brothers blog in November 2015. Since then, we’ve also started a podcast, YouTube channel, Patreon page, and secret Facebook group. We believe our stories hold immeasurable power, and we’re always seeking dynamic, new ways to tell them.
Beyond affirming our fellow same-sex attracted people of faith, we share our stories also for our heterosexual brothers and sisters. We boldly tell our stories of faith and homosexuality as people here in your midst, and like anyone else in your pews, we are yearning to be heard, known, and loved.
We never chose our sexuality, but we are locking arms with each other with faith and hope that our Father has something better intended for His children. Though we stumble and stagger, we will struggle together — and probably laugh a whole lot along the way, too.
So, pull up a cozy chair — or, if you prefer, a pen. Our story continues from days of Xanga to today, and we have this unshakable feeling that you, too, have some tales to contribute.
We welcome you to read or listen through our stories and let us know who you are with a comment, or visit our contact page and shoot us a message. We’d love to hear from you.
We are Your Other Brothers, and we’re glad to have you along for the latest chapter in this strange story . . . our story.
For more on our origin story and purpose, check out our exclusive interview with The Christian Post.
We believe in a God who saw us from the start and calls us now, trusting He will lead us home. We look to Him and follow Him because His ways are good and best.
“The Lord is my portion,” says my soul, “therefore I will hope in him.” — Lamentations 3:24 (ESV)
We admit not having all the answers, and we are not our own. We take off our sandals on holy ground, stepping where God leads.
He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God? — Micah 6:8 (ESV)
We pursue a new story of life together, refusing to go back to life alone. We will lean on others during chapters of struggle as others fall on us during times of strength.
And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken. — Ecclesiastes 4:12 (ESV)
We stand for our convictions regardless the cultural pressures, trusting God’s provision as we encourage others to journey with us.
Be strong, and let your heart take courage, all you who wait for the Lord! — Psalm 31:24 (ESV)
We embrace authenticity and confession and will not judge another for his story. We refuse to let shame overtake us, viewing our weakness as God’s strength.
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. — 2 Corinthians 12:9 (ESV)
Frequently Asked Questions
1. Is every author on this site attracted to the same sex?
Yes. Each of our authors experiences varying degrees of same-sex attraction.
2. Is every author a Christian?
We are a multi-denominational faith community, our authors ascribing to various Christian faith traditions.
3. What do you think of labels like “gay,” “same-sex attracted,” etc.?
While each of our authors is free to identify with his own particular label of choice, we will collectively shy away from generalizing labels. The term “gay” may cause confusion within the Church; other terms like “SSA” (same-sex attracted) or “Side B” (a commitment to celibate singleness or heterosexual marriage) may stir confusion outside the Church. Labels are tricky things, and ultimately we just want our stories to reach people — inside the Church and out. We are laying down our labels; call us what you will.
4. Is homosexuality a choice?
We never chose our sexuality, though we do recognize the power in the choice to respond to it — just as all people do, regardless of their sexuality.
5. Are you anti-gay?
We don’t hate gay people, and we’re not here to judge anyone. We’re not here to protest gay marriages, and we’re not here to blast affirming interpretations of Scripture. We only seek to tell our stories and bring typically competing communities together.
6. Aren’t you all just denying who you really are?
Kinda. As Christ followers, we believe in the call to lay down our lives for Christ as He did for us — all of ourselves, our sexual identities included (Galatians 2:20). We deny ourselves in one way while embracing what we believe to be a better way and a better story — His way, His story. This road hasn’t always been easy, but crossing paths and linking arms with each other over the last several years has been an undeniably rewarding part of this journey.
7. Given your beliefs on homosexuality, is every author here single?
Because of our convictions, most of our authors are single and remain committed to celibacy. A few of our authors, however, are married to women — some may call these “mixed-orientation marriages.”
8. Are you affiliated with any organizations like Exodus International or Q Christian Fellowship (formerly Gay Christian Network)?
We remain unaffiliated with any organizations, past or present. We’re just a group of friends passionate about storytelling.
9. What are your theological and political views on same-sex relationships and gay marriage?
While each of our authors is free to express theological and political views outside this website, we will collectively opt out of this polarizing discussion that distracts from our primary storytelling mission.
10. Is there a comment policy on this site?
Anyone may comment on our site, regardless of sexual orientation or religious affiliation, provided that comments are respectful, relevant, and appropriate. YOB moderates all comments from newer users. YOB will not tolerate comments containing profanity or attacks aimed at community members. We understand disagreements will arise among these polarizing arenas of faith and sexuality, and we encourage civil discourse. Any sexually suggestive, explicit, or otherwise triggering comments will not be accepted. Feel welcome to share vulnerably, but please do not name particular avenues of personal temptation like phone apps, websites, specific types of pornography use, etc. If you think your comment might go “too far,” it’s probably best not to post it. YOB reserves the right to edit or delete any comment, and if necessary, blacklist repeated offenders from further commenting.
11. Can I blog here?
We receive an abundance of requests to participate in our blog. To preserve our organic community dynamic, we do not accept outside inquiries or submissions. We do, however, encourage anyone to participate in the comments section!
12. How can I learn more about stories of faith, homosexuality, and masculinity?
Check out our Resources tab for recommended books, blogs, and other helpful resources. A couple of our authors have published their own memoirs.
13. Is YOB a registered non-profit organization?
We are not a non-profit and have no immediate plans to form one.
14. How can I support YOB?
In addition to your regular prayers for our community, you may also support YOB financially. We operate an ongoing Patreon page that allows followers to further our storytelling efforts. Visit our Patreon for more information.
15. What do you use pledged funds for?
We use Patreon funds to cover site costs, purchase audio and film equipment, and compensate for time invested in post editing, site maintenance, and podcast/video productions; in return, our patrons receive rewards for various amounts pledged like monthly Internet calls with other patrons and bloggers, access to a secret Facebook group, and exclusive store items as they become available.
16. How can I get in touch?
If you’d like to send a message to our administrative team, click our Contact tab. To email a particular author, visit our Authors page for his individual email address.