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A YOB Break Followed by a Whole New YOB!

If you’re a regular YOB reader/listener, you may have noticed things growing a bit dark here lately with not as many blogs or podcasts being published or produced. We’ve hit the pause button beyond the holidays, preparing for what we hope will be a fantastic 2021: more regularity with blogs and podcasts, new authors and podcast voices, a new store page with YOB products, along with a brand new website!

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YOBcast Episode 072: Holiday Spectacular!

It’s our last episode of 2020! AKA the most phenomenal year that ever was. Join Tom, Ryan, Jacob, and returning guest Nate for a fun, nonspecifically topical, yet holiday-themed episode with discussions like our favorite (and least favorite) Christmas carols and when is the proper time to start (and stop) playing Christmas music. We also dive a little deeper by determining the identities of our own personal ghosts of Christmases past, present, and future and what lessons we’d learn from them, along with our individual recaps of 2020 as we fill in the blank after the hashtag: #2020WasTheYear.

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YOBcast Episode 071: Intentional Community

Pieter Valk joins us for a discussion on monastic or intentional community, with particular regard to his Nashville Family of Brothers. We talk about the logistics of living under one roof with fellow single celibate male believers, not just for a season or two, but for the long haul. Through every season.

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YOBcast Episode 070: Attraction

What even is attraction? Is it only physical, sexual, and romantic? Or is it something more? Something that can be platonic yet intimate, something more nuanced and layered? Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a discussion on attraction: the varying types of attraction, the difference between physical and sexual attraction, and whether it’s okay to experience attraction – even romantic – for your friends.

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YOBcast Episode 069: Fetishes

For years a certain topic has been on the YOBcast radar. But it would be a deep dive like no other. Finally, we’re taking the time to talk about sexual fetishes. Disclaimer: this episode may not be for everyone as we list some fetishes in an effort to give context to the topic. Listen at your own discretion. Join Tom, Dean, and Matt for our long anticipated conversation on fetishes. We start with the word’s definitions and fascinating linguistic origins, and we acknowledge whether we have any fetishes. We then talk about the roots of our fetishes, if they even exist, and keeping proper boundaries in talking about our fetishes along with any attached shame.

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YOBcast Episode 068: Coming Out

October is LGBT History Month, and October 11th is National Coming Out Day. What better time than now to share some of our coming out stories? Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a discussion on their coming out journeys, including how we first came out to ourselves, to God, and ultimately to others. We also give some coming out advice to those who are selectively out or still in the closet altogether.

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YOBcast Episode 067: “Side A” Friends Q&A

We’re back to answer some amazing YOBBERS questions from our “Side A” Friends podcast from a few episodes back. Join Tom, Dean, and Matt for another deep dive into the world of “Side A” friendships: that is, those friendships with fellow LGBT+ believers who hold an affirming view of same-sex sexual relationships. Some questions we tackle in this follow-up episode include: Would you go to a Side A friend’s gay wedding? How would you pursue Side B friendship if you were the one who is Side A? And how do we apply Paul’s words on sexual immorality in 1 Corinthians 5 to the modern church?

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YOBcast Episode 066: Manliness

When do you feel manly? When do you feel not at all manly? Is manliness even something worth pursuing? Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a return to one of our “classic” episodes in which we discuss opening pickle jars, killing cockroaches, camping out, working out, owning a home, and so much more on this simultaneously shallow and deep topic of manliness.

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YOBcast Episode 065: Loving LGBT+ People

Bill Henson of Lead Them Home, Posture Shift, and Guiding Families joins Tom, Ryan, and Dean for a special guest discussion on loving LGBT+ people – both inside and outside the Church. How do we better understand LGBT-identifying people or those who experience same-sex attraction, and how do we love them well?

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YOBcast Episode 064: Celibacy

It only took us 64 episodes to talk about celibacy! Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a discussion on sex, singleness, marriage, healthy sexuality, and this mystical notion of “calling.” How many of us feel “called to celibacy”?

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