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Corona ConvoCast 04: Tom and Dean Remember How They Met!

Tom finishes out this first week of our new ConvoCast by welcoming back another OG YOB author, Dean, who recounts his flights around the country during this pandemic. The guys also talk about the church’s role during these hard times and how something beautiful could be carried over into the “new normal” to come. In the episode’s remaining minutes, Tom and Dean also recount how they first met and if Dean ever replaced Tom as a member of Tom’s family?

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Corona ConvoCast 03: Tom and Matt Go Boarding!

Tom welcomes back another OG YOB author, Matt, to talk about how coronavirus life is affecting him on the other side of the country. There’s been some tragedy but also some hope. Tom also promises to follow in Matt’s literal footsteps and go longboarding very soon.

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Corona ConvoCast 02: Tom and Marshall Go to Seattle!

Tom welcomes back OG YOB author, Marshall, for a catchup on his life these last few months living on a farm with over a dozen people. They also chit-chat about Seattle and the splendor of Mt. Rainier, as well as the importance of community, now more than ever, during this coronavirus era.

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Corona ConvoCast 01: Tom and Nate and the Mousey Elephant!

Tom kicks off this new semi-daily spinoff podcast with former YOBcast guest, Nate! We talk how coronavirus is affecting us, including the breaking down of our to-do lists and routines as God continues to move. Tom also shows Nate his recent driveway chalk art for some artistic critique, and we barely get into discussing “Tiger King.”

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YOBcast Episode 060: Fear

The coronavirus pandemic has consumed the planet. In this time of widespread uncertainty, how do we not be afraid? What other things in life cause us dread? Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for what’s sure to be a “time capsule” of a podcast. We dive into how the current coronavirus crisis is affecting our daily lives, and we also cast the conversation beyond this pandemic – starting with our relational fears, and then spreading to fears for our sexuality and spiritual fears. Namely, we ask this question: is Jesus enough? What if He isn’t?

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YOBcast Episode 059 (LIVE): Favorite Blogs!

We’ve written over 300 blogs here at YOB since 2015, and we gathered four of our site’s authors to discuss our favorite ones – recorded in front of a couple dozen people, no less. That’s right, it’s our first-ever LIVE recorded podcast with a digital audience! We invited our Patreon supporters on Facebook to watch and participate in the discussion with comments and questions for this episode’s cast: Tom, Ryan, Dean, and Matt. Each of us reads our personal favorite blog for the cast and YOBBERS to discuss. We also mention our blogs that have garnered the most views these last four years, and Tom and Matt share lots of fun-loving “big brother” moments together.

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YOBcast Episode 058: Loneliness v. Solitude

Have you ever felt lonely within your sexuality? Do you choose loneliness or does loneliness choose you? Extroverted or introverted, do you embrace regular solitude, treating it as a spiritual practice? Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a discussion on the divergence of loneliness and solitude. We talk about the healthy and not-so-healthy ways we cope with loneliness and how we seek out solitude. Additionally, we talk about the dynamic of living alone or with others as single gay/SSA men, forecasting our living situations for the decades to come.

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YOBcast Episode 057: Gay Sex and Hookups

What led to your having gay sex for the first time? Can you separate the physical from the emotional in gay sex? How many times have you had gay sex, and would you consider yourself a sex addict? It’s a throwback episode with three of our original YOB cofounders: Tom, Dean, and Matt. We talk with Matt about his journey and struggles with gay sex and hookups. It’s a raw, courageous chronicling of his story as a pastor’s kid – a story still being written to this day. We also catch up with Dean and Matt from the last year or so, including Dean’s recent exploits to Canada (and questionable Canadian accent) and Matt’s sarcastic sense of humor (or actual disappointment) with Tom…

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We Have a Brand New Logo! (And Website.)

For the last year, our website has been in a state of transition. We’re still tinkering with various pages and features, but the bulk of our third redesign in five years just happened with a brand new header, logo, and color scheme! A huge shout-out to Wesley Ayers for his hard work in designing our new look. As to the brand new header, here’s what it all means…

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YOBcast Episode 056: Pornography

Do we talk about pornography too much as the Church or not nearly enough? Do we “talk about talking about” pornography or do we actually talk about it? Pornography is more accessible than ever before and, increasingly, more aggressive. It’s a struggle and an addiction that has reached and claimed all people: gay, straight, men, and women. Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob as we take a deep dive into the science and story of pornography. It’s one of our classic episodes that we’re reopening in a new way.

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