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  • The First Guy Who Ever Crossed Physical Boundaries With Me
    The First Guy Who Ever Crossed Physical Boundaries With Me
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    Somewhere in the night, the role reversal from cuddling with Brandon completed itself. Lines got blurred and then definitively crossed. It wasn't sexual touch, but it was inappropriate touch. It wasn't welcomed or invited. Brett didn't ask; he just did. He took. Just as I took from Brandon, Brett took from me. And passive, conflict-avoidant me felt crippled to say a word against
  • How the Lord Is (Somehow) Healing My Marriage
    How the Lord Is (Somehow) Healing My Marriage
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    I thought my first stories of marriage would be easy ones to tell. I thought I would say, "Hey, it all worked out! Everything's great! Praise God!" Instead, I felt a deeper pain than I'd ever felt. Until Jesus changed me, and my mourning turned to dancing. My brothers, I wish I had different words to tell you. I wish I could promise you healing without heartache, but it is not the story of healing I have to
  • To My Pastor: A Template to Help You Come Out to Church Leadership
    To My Pastor: A Template to Help You Come Out to Church Leadership
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    The decision to come out (or not) is very personal. There exist many different methods of coming out, and our blog has already covered some of them. What follows is a template to give you a potential starting point for conversation with anyone in your church leadership. I write this as one who has had both positive and negative experiences coming out to church leadership. This template is designed in such a way that it could be left anonymously in a leader's mailbox to get him or her thinking, or as a conversation starter if you trust someone is ready to engage with you
  • Can Christians Celebrate Pride Month?
    How Can the Church Do Better With Singleness?
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    After experiencing similar frustrations with how churches often treat single people, gay or straight, Kevin and Adrian sat down for an honest conversation about their singleness experiences in the church and how the church can be better and move
  • We Need a New Masculine Narrative
    We Need a New Masculine Narrative
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    When we talk about masculinity, we usually talk like it is something we need to become, instead of something we already are. I think we need to introduce a new masculine narrative: a new narrative that is actually an old one, formed by
  • Nature vs. Nurture: Was I Born This Way?
    Nature vs. Nurture: Was I Born This Way?
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    It's only human nature to ask these questions of nature vs. nurture. The seeming injustice and sheer unfairness of our sexualities can feel torturous. It seems cruel that we're so different in a way that society considers taboo and the church considers downright
  • The First Guy I Ever Crossed Physical Boundaries With
    The First Guy I Ever Crossed Physical Boundaries With
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    I pictured him crying in his bed when he woke up that morning, or even going to bed crying right after leaving me; knowing I'd hurt him, knowing I'd been the one to cross physical boundaries. It destroyed me, if I'm
  • Coming Out to My Church Small Group
    Coming Out to My Church Small Group
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    I'd spent a long time laboriously looking for a community to belong, and I'd finally found one. With this new community, though, came a growing fear – the fear of eventually being rejected. If they knew me, like really knew me, would they still want to be friends with me or even associate with me at all? If these people were to reject me for my sexuality, I thought, it would be better to experience that rejection now by just ripping off the bandage rather than going deeper into relationships that would only be taken away
  • Coming Out to My Parents as a Teenager
    Coming Out to My Parents as a Teenager
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    A few days prior, I had sent my dad an email explaining that I was gay. I can't remember what all I said or how I said it, but looking back, that probably wasn't the best way to go about it. I was just too afraid to bring it up face to face; an email was easy to send. Hitting send on that coming out email to my dad felt like being pushed out of a plane: there was no turning back, and the parachute better well
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