Author: tom

YOBcast Episode 040: Change

Change happens to all of us. Relational change. Spiritual change. Seasons of life that take us to the redemptive mountaintops and valleys of shadows. Tom welcomes Ryan and Dean for our first episode back after a monthlong hiatus. It’s an episode of literal change with new sounds, new segments, and new features as we dive into a discussion on the most pivotal changes in our lives. We discuss our authors’ retreat weekend, the inaugural Revoice conference, our first 1-star iTunes review, Tom’s initial discovery of this Your Other Brothers community, Ryan’s journey with body image, Dean’s friendship with Tom’s younger brother, and more.

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Check Out Our New Resources!

Check out our new resources tab for books, blogs, and podcasts recommended by our authors. We may not necessarily collectively endorse every single resource on this page, but at least a few of us have found these books, blogs, and podcasts particularly helpful in this journey.

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My Jesus Journey Leads Me Here

Call it a “new direction” or a clearer translation of what YOB has been from the start: a community desperate for Jesus. My 31-year Jesus journey leads me here. Wherever “here” is. Broken on the floor. Echoes of the past ringing in my ears. Doubts for the future always shadowing my vision no matter how many tears I blink away.

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YOBcast Episode 039: Strengths

We’re so focused on repairing our weaknesses, we often neglect our God-given strengths. What would our lives look like if we recognized and intentionally built these strengths? Tom and Elliott talk about their strengths from Gallup’s Strengths Finder. They first took the test five years ago and recently retook the test with new results! They talk about their old and new strengths and how these strengths tie to their faith and relational journeys of the last few years.

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Can Christians Celebrate Pride Month?

June is recognized as LGBT+ Pride Month. It’s a divisive topic in church culture! Should Christians celebrate Pride Month? Should we in this YOB community recognize Pride Month or even attend a Pride parade? Our core authors gathered to talk about Pride Month — our response to it as Christians and particularly as believers with same-sex attraction (SSA).

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How to Follow the Will of God

In this episode of MANLY MONDAY, we dive into the concept of the will of God. How do you find it, and what does it look like? Does the will of God look the same for everyone? I share a campfire experience from our recently held YOBBERS retreat and also dive into my experience finding the will of God, including an image of a father and a son that changed how I view the will of God.

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YOBcast Episode 038: Fathers

How did our fathers affect our upbringings as men with same-sex attraction? How do our fathers still affect us today? What does Father’s Day mean to us, if anything? Tom and Elliott welcome back Dean for a discussion on fathers and Father’s Day. Additionally, our YOBBERS submit questions for Dean to answer from his perspective as a father.

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Our YOBBERS Retreat Was the Worst

In this episode of MANLY MONDAY, I process our recently held YOBBERS retreat — including my favorite element and my least favorite aspect of 47 dudes from all over the world uniting in a single place. What was great about our retreat, and what was just awful about it? I have much to say about our emotional weekend together and life’s mountaintop moments at large.

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I’m an Other Brother Too

Our recently held inaugural YOBBERS retreat far exceeded my expectations and imagination. I experienced many meaningful moments at the retreat, including one that produced this profound — perhaps obvious — realization: I am an other brother too.

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