About The Author

Thomas Mark Zuniga

Chronic wanderer and melancholic delighter in the what-comes-next. I'm the cofounder and editor for YOB, and I also host our bimonthly podcast: the YOBcast. I've written a couple books and first started fleshing out my story of faith and same-sex attraction years ago under the Xanga username "Two Beckonings." I'm an INFJ, Enneagram Type 4, and my favorite place is the one where coffee and vulnerability meet. Feel free to reach out if we've yet to connect; maybe it was ever ago planned that we one day would?

Introducing Our New Web Series: Manly Monday!

Today, we’re excited to introduce our brand new web series: MANLY MONDAY! Join me in this biweekly (bimonthly?) video series for storytime, Scripture reading, and calls to growth for the week ahead. You’ll also get a little “state of the YOB” with highlights from recent comments, podcasts, emails, and more. We hope Manly Monday is […]

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YOBcast Episode 028: Labels

Everyone uses labels to make sense of the world. But when do sexual identity labels do more damage than good? What parts of the story are sacrificed for our insistent labels? Tom and Elliott welcome back Frank for a serious discussion on Side A, Side B, and our journeys with labels.

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YOBcast Episode 026: Girls

Tom and Elliott welcome back Bradley and Frank for a discussion on girls. We cover friendship, mothers, and dating as we circle back to our concept of masculinity: how do girls affect our view of ourselves?

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YOBcast Episode 025: Best Friends

Tom and Elliott welcome back Tom’s younger brother, Andy, for his second YOBcast appearance. Also appearing for his second show is Dean, one of our authors who also happens to be Andy’s best friend. We talk about their relationship as best friends and what having a best friend means to all of us.

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Two Years Together: Introducing Our New Site!

Welcome, friend! If you’re reading this post in your inbox, I encourage you to make the jump to our website. It’s a whole new world. Don’t be alarmed. You’re still at Your Other Brothers. You’re still home. Today’s a special day. Today, we celebrate our 2-year anniversary of being a website! More than a blog, […]

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YOBcast Episode 024: Temptation

What triggers us and how do we reckon with temptation? What’s the difference between a trigger and a temptation, and how do we face temptation during moments of weakness and vulnerability? Tom and Elliott welcome Bradley and Matt for a vulnerable conversation on triggers and temptation. We dive into the HALT acronym (hungry, angry, lonely, […]

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I Only Watch Soft-Core Pornography

I never sought out pornography; it found me. With technology these days, it was practically inevitable. Even in 2006. It all started with soft-core pornography; it all ends there, too. I talked about my porn habits in our latest YOBcast episode, and I wanted to dive deeper into my pornography origin story. Particularly my fixation […]

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YOBcast Episode 023: Pornography

What is pornography? How early did we discover pornography, how has it evolved over the generations, and how do we combat it? Tom and Elliott welcome back Marshall for a long overdue conversation on pornography — particularly gay pornography. We discuss the definition of the term, our first exposures to pornography, and what we do […]

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YOBcast Rehash: Support Groups

Tom and Elliott return for a video rehash of our support groups podcast! Join Tom and Elliott as we walk down a city street filled with old churches for shenanigans and feedback from our recent episode. Thanks again to YOBBER Ryan for appearing on the show! Check out the comments on our podcast episode page, and don’t […]

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