About The Author

Thomas Mark Zuniga

tom@yourotherbrothers.com

I'm a storyteller and story-liver in Asheville, North Carolina - the Jewel of the Blue Ridge. I'm YOB's cofounder and editor, and I also host our bimonthly podcast. I've written a couple books, including a memoir in 2013 where I first came out to the world. Once upon another universe I anonymously blogged about my faith and sexuality under the Xanga username, "twoBeckonings." I'm an INFJ, an Enneagram 4w5, and my spirit animal is the buffalo. My favorite place in the world is the one where coffee and vulnerability meet.

YOBcast Episode 065: Loving LGBT+ People

Bill Henson of Lead Them Home, Posture Shift, and Guiding Families joins Tom, Ryan, and Dean for a special guest discussion on loving LGBT+ people – both inside and outside the Church. How do we better understand LGBT-identifying people or those who experience same-sex attraction, and how do we love them well?

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Anyone Else Feeling Super Tempted During COVID-19?

Anyone else feeling super tempted during this pandemic? Especially the longer this thing drags on? Because I’ll be the first to raise my hand. I’m feeling super tempted. I’m feeling super restless. I’m actually feeling super-duper tempted and restless.

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YOBcast Episode 064: Celibacy

It only took us 64 episodes to talk about celibacy! Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a discussion on sex, singleness, marriage, healthy sexuality, and this mystical notion of “calling.” How many of us feel “called to celibacy”?

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YOBcast Episode 063: The Sex Talk

We’re talking about “the talk”! You know, “The Birds and the Bees” (whatever that even means). Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a trip down memory lane as we recount our memories (or lacks thereof) involving the sex talk with our parents, along with sex education at our schools. How many folks do, in fact, actually receive the sex talk as a kid? Our very scientific poll results from our secret YOBBERS group may surprise you. We also zoom out for a broader view of sex: how did our family upbringing and culture surrounding sex affect our thoughts and feelings on sex today? And what do we think of God’s creating of sex?

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YOBcast Episode 062: “Side A” Friends

“Side A” people follow Jesus with an affirming position on same-sex sexual relationships. As Jesus-followers from a “Side B” (traditional) position on marriage and sexuality, is it difficult or effortless to forge friendships with folks who are Side A? Join Tom, Dean, and Matt for a discussion on their experiences with Side A friendships: both with friends who started out Side A and also with friends who started out Side B – only for them to change to Side A. Can Side B-turned-A friendships survive? How do we build healthy Side A friendships?

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I’ve Never Tried to Pray the Gay Away

I’ve long heard a common refrain among fellow gay or SSA folks in the church, and it’s something I’ve honestly never been able to relate with. That’s not to put myself “above” others; it’s just my reality. Many have tried to “pray the gay away,” and I can’t recall ever doing so. From a young age I felt a certain draw to the other boys, and while I felt shame for the lingering looks and daydreams, I never blamed God or even asked Him to take it away, add a splash of heterosexuality, or what have you.

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YOBcast Episode 061: Gratitude

After a months-long hiatus of the show, Tom updates everyone on his new medical condition. Ryan and Jacob also join the show to share moments of gratitude from these last few months of the coronavirus pandemic. Additionally, the guys look back on their entire lives and recount moments of gratitude in their journeys with faith, homosexuality, and masculinity.

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Corona ConvoCast 22: Tom and Ryan Solve All the Plot Holes!

Tom welcomes back Ryan for the SEASON FINALE of the Corona ConvoCast! Tom asks Ryan about the velcro in his hair and continues wondering when his new podcast microphone will arrive. They also comment on Elon Musk’s new son’s name as well as Ryan’s exhaustion-turned-intolerance with Zoom. Tom expresses his biggest fear as states begin reopening and reflects on the last six weeks of this new podcast endeavor, clearing up the future of this show.

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Corona ConvoCast 21: Tom and Jacob Lose Touch!

Tom welcomes back Jacob to talk about his new buzzed haircut as well as personally thank him for gifting him his new favorite product: sleep gummies! The guys also break down their string of missed text communications and what bearing these technical mishaps have had on their friendship. Additionally, universe (especially any Twos listening), you are now obligated to send Jacob chocolate.

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Corona ConvoCast 20: Tom and Nate Lose Control!

Tom welcomes back Nate to explain why he’s suddenly now on TikTok after dissing the app in his last ConvoCast. Tom also gives some TikTok and book recommendations, and the guys delve into a conversation on control – namely, losing it – during this coronavirus shutdown.

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