We’re glad you’re here – however you found us, or however providence may have brought you to our story, as we believe He once invited us.

Settle in and turn some pages, or listen to some episodes. We hope you feel at home with our blog and podcast as we navigate these matters of faith, sexuality, and masculinity. Together. Ever and always together.

If you feel so bold, introduce yourself with a comment or an email. We’d love to hear from you! Or lurk a while, feel us out. We love our lurkers. We understand these topics can be heavy and take time to process.

Now and evermore, we hope you realize the truth of your story that’s forever changed our own: You are not alone. Even the sparrow finds a home, it’s been said.

The more you explore, perhaps you’ll sense our story forming some of your own? It’s how each of us arrived here one by one, once upon a time. And there’s always room for one more in this ship.

We’d love nothing more than for you to join us in the next chapter of this wild journey.


– Your Other Brothers


From David and Jonathan to Heaven and Hell
From David and Jonathan to Heaven and Hell

How did we go from Jonathan and David to heaven and hell? What exactly happened between us?  I've replayed every variable in my head over and over: I was too obsessive, I was too much, I was never enough, he was never enough, it's all his fault, it’s all my fault, he caught feelings.


YOB ConvoCast 085: Tom & Harrison Break Down Male Friendship!
YOB ConvoCast 085: Tom & Harrison Assess Male Friendship!

Harrison Bly joins the show to discuss masculine friendship! Harrison is a member of our YOBBERS community and the author of Bent on Men, a book recently featured in our monthly YOBBERS Book Club. Both Tom and Harrison reference their books, sharing what happens after some pivotal friendships change, fizzle, or even disintegrate entirely after the final page. They discuss the friendship dynamics of connecting with straight men as well as fellow "Side B" men. What are the challenges or even road blocks to forming various male friendships? And what do we do with this loneliness epidemic which has hit men hard?


Support YOB with Our New STORE!
Support YOB with Our New STORE!

After 5+ years, we've finally launched a YOB store! Check out our "You Are Not Alone" diner mug, along with YOB stickers, a magnet, and Tom's first book. With more items to come!