We’re glad you’re here – however you found us, or however providence may have brought you to our story, as we believe He once invited us.

Settle in and turn some pages, or listen to some episodes. We hope you feel at home with our blog and podcast as we navigate these matters of faith, sexuality, and masculinity. Together. Ever and always together.

If you feel so bold, introduce yourself with a comment or an email. We’d love to hear from you! Or lurk a while, feel us out. We love our lurkers. We understand these topics can be heavy and take time to process.

Now and evermore, we hope you realize the truth of your story that’s forever changed our own: You are not alone. Even the sparrow finds a home, it’s been said.

The more you explore, perhaps you’ll sense our story forming some of your own? It’s how each of us arrived here one by one, once upon a time. And there’s always room for one more in this ship.

We’d love nothing more than for you to join us in the next chapter of this wild journey.


– Your Other Brothers


The Challenges and Callings in my Mixed-Orientation Marriage
The Challenges and Callings in my Mixed-Orientation Marriage

Together, we are still invited to the same calling in marriage: to bear the image of God and represent Christ and the Church in our love for one another. Why would I share this part of our married life, my sexuality, which some may see as so private so as only to be known to one's priest or pastor?


YOB ConvoCast 088: Matt Has Always Lived with Family while Closeted with Them
YOB ConvoCast 088: Matt Has Always Lived with Family while Closeted with Them

Matt returns to discuss his home life: always living with his family even as he enters his late thirties! He explains the importance of family within his Navajo culture, sharing why he enjoys regularly going home to the reservation after moving away from it. But Matt also shares why he doesn’t disclose anything about his sexuality with his conservative family. Despite this withholding, Matt feels at home with his churches and friends, particularly his male friends, claiming he’s never felt more masculine and comfortable in his body than he does now. Will he always live with family, or does he aspire for another living situation in the future?


Support YOB with Our New STORE!
Support YOB with Our New STORE!

After 5+ years, we've finally launched a YOB store! Check out our "You Are Not Alone" diner mug, along with YOB stickers, a magnet, and Tom's first book. With more items to come!