We’re glad you’re here – however you found us, or however providence may have brought you into our story, as we believe He once invited us.

Settle in and turn some pages, or listen to some episodes. We hope you feel at home with us as we navigate these matters of faith, sexuality, and masculinity. Together. Ever and always together.

If you feel so bold, introduce yourself with a comment or an email. We’d love to hear from you. Or lurk a while, feel us out. We love our lurkers, too.

Now and evermore, we hope you realize the truth that’s forever changed our lives: You are not alone. Even the sparrow finds a home.

Who knows, perhaps our wild little story is already becoming some of your own? After all, it’s how we all arrived here once upon a time. And there’s always room for one more in this boat . . . as the journey continues . . .


Your Other Brothers


Three Tactics for Fighting Intrusive Sexual Thoughts
Three Tactics to Fight Sexually Intrusive Thoughts

For so many years I thought I was just dirty, lustful, and awful for thinking all these terrible sexual thoughts. I was filled with constant shame because the sexually intrusive thoughts kept coming. The realization that I can actually, with practice, redirect my own thoughts, is more freeing than I can write.


YOB ConvoCast 048: Adam Loves/Loathes This Vulnerable Spotlight as a THREE!
YOB ConvoCast 048: Adam Loves/Loathes This Vulnerable Spotlight as a THREE!

Adam makes his YOB podcast debut (or does he??) as he helps us get over the hump of this Enneagram ConvoCast series! As a member of our community he opens up about the need for vulnerability as a Three, along with the core struggle it launches against the impressive persona he strives to present. We ponder the reason why Threes are perhaps the least common type in YOB – and maybe even within the greater "Side B" community? Is it simply because the closet is especially comfortable for a Three and less threatening to their reputation in the Church? Adam also confesses why he thinks Threes are the least desirable type in the Church and how that's impacted his ability to belong as a believer.


Support YOB with Our New STORE!
Support YOB with Our New STORE!

After 5+ years, we've finally launched a YOB store! Check out our "You Are Not Alone" diner mug, along with YOB stickers, a magnet, and Tom's first book. With more items to come!