Tom and Elliott return for a video rehash of our support groups podcast! Join Tom and Elliott as we walk down a city street filled with old churches for shenanigans and feedback from our recent episode. Thanks again to YOBBER Ryan for appearing on the show! Check out the comments on our podcast episode page, and don’t forget to comment on future podcast episodes for the chance to appear in a YOBcast Rehash video! You can subscribe to our podcast on iTunes, Google Play, and Stitcher! Listen to our podcast below if you missed it the first time: Enjoy the Rehash below! And don’t forget to comment: what support groups have you tried? Have you found them successful?

I’m thirty-three years old, I’m married, and I masturbate. I never thought I’d still be doing this as an adult. Back when I was a teenager, I had no intention of keeping this habit going so long. I believed masturbation was a sin back then, so I tried to stop. Of course, it was hard, but you know how it goes. You try to control yourself, you last a few days or a couple weeks max, and then almost without thinking about it, you dive back into your pants and beat yourself down with shame for the next three days. That was my life. I thought if I could just grow up and get married, I’d be able to have sex, and then I wouldn’t need to jack off anymore. My old youth pastor brought this up one night. The guys and girls were separated, and all of the guys sat in a circle on the floor. Our youth pastor was young and newly married and gave us a long talk about masturbation and porn, telling us how important it was that we remain pure. He said we didn’t have to masturbate; we could give it up. Easy for you […]

Tom and Elliott return for a rehash of our manliness podcast episode! It was our most critical episode yet, and we dive into some of the criticism. Check out the comments on our podcast episode page, and don’t forget to comment on future episodes for the chance to appear in a YOBcast Rehash video! You can subscribe to our podcast on iTunes, Google Play, and Stitcher! You can listen to our podcast below if you missed it: Add to the discussion! What do you think of Wild at Heart? And what kind of closing slogan should we have for this new show? We’ll read your suggestions on an upcoming episode! Enjoy this latest episode of the YOBcast Rehash!

“Any idea when he’s moving?” My church coworker and friend, Garth, thought I knew the answer to the question. He actually thought I was aware of the move. He’d thought Henry had told me he was moving away. I barely contained my emotions as I responded back, “What?” It was perhaps more forceful than warranted. But perhaps not. ~ ~ ~ “One of the posts was about Father’s Day,” Henry responded. “It was pretty good.” “Oh, yeah,” I responded with a broad smile. “I read that one, too.” I turned around for a moment. Looks like I wouldn’t be telling Henry my identity on the blog after all. “Actually . . . ” Changed my mind. Henry’s eyes grew to the second widest I had ever seen them. He wasn’t shocked I was same-sex attracted; he’d heard more than his fair share of my sexual past. His shock was more that I had managed to share Your Other Brothers without giving my part away. I’d held a pretty convincing poker face, apparently. “See, NOW I appreciate your post about Father’s Day even more,” Henry responded. “I feel like I could go back and read your posts and appreciate them. Like, […]

In my previous blogs, I’ve written about how my same-sex attraction (SSA) brought about an obsession with nudity, leading me down nudism paths which ultimately led me down many unhealthy paths. Would this odd obsession with nudity lead me anywhere worthwhile? After finding that most nudists I met online were flakey or only interested in sex (not to slam all nudists; just the ones in my experience), I began to despair. I still had no close friends or any men with whom to be authentically open and vulnerable. But, thankfully, God heard my pain and my prayers. I met a few other “Side B” men online, and much to my shock they had similar stories as mine. They also experienced complicated interests with nudity and had experimented with nudist sites. They, too, had reached out to nudist men online, only to be sucked into a world of sex thinly veiled as mutual vulnerability. We became very close since we all stood on the same page with our sexualities, and we felt safe practicing mutual nudity in a healthy way as acts of vulnerability and intimacy with no sex. The other guys told me about the Korean spa — places with […]

Walking into manhood has felt less like an epic saga and more like stumbling drunkenly and blindly through the valley of death and dying. I tried to find my strength, fortitude, and the path to manhood on my own; years later, I still come up short. My feelings of inadequacy pointed to where I was wounded and by whom. My dad made it clear that my mannerisms made me different, and there my obsession began. Years of self-correction amounted to nothing and my effeminate mannerisms gave away my secret shame. I was not masculine and had no idea how I’d get to the promised land. I didn’t know there was a way and that it can be revealed to us in other godly men. That there are parts of me, however wild and foolish, that can be safely explored in the company of peers. After two decades, I finally found myself back to a place where I was free enough to explore the tenets of manhood and masculinity without having to embrace them. If I were to list what I thought those attributes are, I’m sure my list would differ from yours. I began to understand what I was groomed […]