About Me

I live for God. Every decision I make is done in seeking His Will. My beliefs are made through seeking the Truth of Scripture and meditating on the leading of the Holy Spirit. I am deeply in love with my wife, Lisa. I have the world's most amazing daughter who shall remain nameless and ageless in order to guard and protect her. I am obsessed with TV shows and movies. I enjoy reading. Eating is usually enjoyable. I am highly critical of everything around me and always have an opinion on every matter.

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My Greatest Failure as a Man
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My Greatest Failure as a Man

I am a failure. I’m a failure of a husband and a man. No, I didn’t cheat on my wife; I feel like I’ve done the opposite of it, actually. I’ve been wearing this feeling for awhile. A long time, really. Ever since we got married. When my life turned around many, many years ago, […]

Real Men Fix Things
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Real Men Fix Things

You could not have imagined a stranger sight: I was on my stomach, stretched out on the hallway upstairs, groaning with every twist of the hand, sweat pouring down my face, obscenities flowing from my mouth, and only the thought of, “How did I get here?” going through my head. And then my wife came […]

Real Men Don’t Take Baths
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Real Men Don’t Take Baths

“Dude, what do you think you’re doing?” His shocked tone both surprised me and didn’t at the same time. I wanted to come off as curious while not sounding stupid. I simply asked “What?” and watched his eyes widen even further. “Dude, you took a bath,” Martin exclaimed, eyes now larger than originally thought possible. “How […]

The Flags I Fly Over Myself
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The Flags I Fly Over Myself

A pastor advised me many years ago to beware of my choice of identity. We were discussing my SSA and comments made by some friends at the time. I was upset that they commonly used “gay” as a detrimental term when they were frustrated. My pastor did not excuse their words. He sat them down […]

The Futile Fantasy of Straight-Baiting
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The Futile Fantasy of Straight-Baiting

“Straight-baiting” has always fascinated me. If you don’t happen to know this term, it’s the act of tricking a heterosexual individual to engage in homosexual activities. The porn is super profitable, and it’s also a “dating” technique, though “pursuing” tactic may be more appropriate. But what is so desirable about scoring with a guy who’s […]

Why I Almost Left YOB
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Why I Almost Left YOB

It’s no secret: I have struggled with blogging the past several months. When YOB started, I was a regular. I was posting pretty much every week. Blog ideas were coming out the wazoo and I was putting them all out there for the readers. I was reliable. Dependable. Always ready to share. And then I […]

I Want to Protect My Daughter
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I Want to Protect My Daughter

I have mentioned before that I am a father. However, I have yet to write about this experience of fatherhood. I’ve thought about it — played around with what a post could look like. But I haven’t pulled the trigger on it yet. And it’s been the same reason each time. I want to protect my […]

No Codependency This Thanksgiving
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No Codependency This Thanksgiving

It was a simple text. Nothing special — at least, nothing overtly special. I just wanted to send it to him because, well, I think we’re close. “Happy Thanksgiving, Carver!” Carver is a coworker of mine — one I’ve gotten close to over the past several months. He’s around my age, though still single. We […]

What Matters Most for Gay People and All People
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What Matters Most for Gay People and All People

I sat in rehearsal the other night for a show I’m assisting with. I watched ten actors do a mic check and all of them failed to speak clearly. As I yelled for the millionth time for these actors to speak clearly, I sat back and sighed loudly. Why can’t they understand what they’re supposed to […]

Would I Still Have Same-Sex Attraction If…?
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Would I Still Have Same-Sex Attraction If…?

One of my favorite pieces of music is an obscure orchestral piece by Charles Ives called, “The Unanswered Question.” Written at the beginning of the 20th century, it truly feels as though a solo trumpet is asking a question that can never be fully answered. The trumpet hangs in the air, always waiting for the […]