About Me

I live for God. Every decision I make is done in seeking His Will. My beliefs are made through seeking the Truth of Scripture and meditating on the leading of the Holy Spirit. I am deeply in love with my wife, Lisa. I have the world's most amazing daughter who shall remain nameless and ageless in order to guard and protect her. I am obsessed with TV shows and movies. I enjoy reading. Eating is usually enjoyable. I am highly critical of everything around me and always have an opinion on every matter.

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Real Men Mow Their Own Lawns
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Real Men Mow Their Own Lawns

I hate mowing my lawn. Hate it with a passion. This is not an exaggeration either. If I could, I would have solid gravel all around my house. That, or a magical lawn fairy who would keep my lawn looking pristine without my ever having to lift a finger. Since the lawn fairy still ignores […]

Finding Freedom on Father’s Day
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Finding Freedom on Father’s Day

What a way to start my Father’s Day. I mean, I can think of worse ways. Balloons could have gotten caught in the ceiling fan above my bed and mimicked the sounds of machine guns as they whirled around wildly. However, I can’t say that this text lay too far ahead in the lineup. As […]

What Every SSA Guy Needs
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What Every SSA Guy Needs

His question was an honest one. No ill intentions, no wild presuppositions. Simply put: a curiosity stemming from lack of education. More in passing than direct, a side statement within a side statement. But it was still a question. And it had to be answered. Why do SSA guys need strong male friendships? My friend Mick […]

Avoiding the Mistakes of my Parents
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Avoiding the Mistakes of my Parents

“Ready for bed, darling?” I call out to my daughter. With my wife out of town, it’s just me and my girl tonight. We’ve already hung out most of the day, watched some shows, and enjoyed dinner with my friend, now ready to finish out the day. My daughter responds with a sleepy sigh. You’re definitely […]

Replacing My Best Friend
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Replacing My Best Friend

I stood at the back of the room, mulling over the past year. Twelve months ago, I was still getting to know this guy; heck, eighteen months ago, I didn’t even know he existed. Now, I’m supporting Carver in a performance like a proud friend. Almost like a best friend. My other friend, John, has similarities […]

My Greatest Failure as a Man
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My Greatest Failure as a Man

I am a failure. I’m a failure of a husband and a man. No, I didn’t cheat on my wife; I feel like I’ve done the opposite of it, actually. I’ve been wearing this feeling for awhile. A long time, really. Ever since we got married. When my life turned around many, many years ago, […]

Real Men Fix Things
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Real Men Fix Things

You could not have imagined a stranger sight: I was on my stomach, stretched out on the hallway upstairs, groaning with every twist of the hand, sweat pouring down my face, obscenities flowing from my mouth, and only the thought of, “How did I get here?” going through my head. And then my wife came […]

Real Men Don’t Take Baths
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Real Men Don’t Take Baths

“Dude, what do you think you’re doing?” His shocked tone both surprised me and didn’t at the same time. I wanted to come off as curious while not sounding stupid. I simply asked “What?” and watched his eyes widen even further. “Dude, you took a bath,” Martin exclaimed, eyes now larger than originally thought possible. “How […]

The Flags I Fly Over Myself
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The Flags I Fly Over Myself

A pastor advised me many years ago to beware of my choice of identity. We were discussing my SSA and comments made by some friends at the time. I was upset that they commonly used “gay” as a detrimental term when they were frustrated. My pastor did not excuse their words. He sat them down […]

The Futile Fantasy of Straight-Baiting
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The Futile Fantasy of Straight-Baiting

“Straight-baiting” has always fascinated me. If you don’t happen to know this term, it’s the act of tricking a heterosexual individual to engage in homosexual activities. The porn is super profitable, and it’s also a “dating” technique, though “pursuing” tactic may be more appropriate. But what is so desirable about scoring with a guy who’s […]