About The Author

Dean

dean@yourotherbrothers.com

*Pseudonym Account* I do my best to pursue Jesus Christ every day. I fail often, yet I get back up each time. I am married to an incredible woman I call Lisa – she is far better than I deserve. My daughter is one of the greatest joys of my life. And in my spare time, I watch my favorite TV shows and movies, play RPG video games, and hang out with my friends. Yes, I am a nerd and I am proud of it.

Corona ConvoCast 04: Tom and Dean Remember How They Met!

Tom finishes out this first week of our new ConvoCast by welcoming back another OG YOB author, Dean, who recounts his flights around the country during this pandemic. The guys also talk about the church’s role during these hard times and how something beautiful could be carried over into the “new normal” to come. In the episode’s remaining minutes, Tom and Dean also recount how they first met and if Dean ever replaced Tom as a member of Tom’s family?

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How to Express Joy in My Queerness?

I’ve heard it said that joy is a contentment or cheeriness not based on circumstances. Wouldn’t a foundation of Christ motivate me to love and edify others? And wouldn’t this same foundation also keep me from both self-hate and egotism? Ultimately, how can I express joy in my queerness that doesn’t glorify sin yet also expresses humility?

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YOBcast Episode 059 (LIVE): Favorite Blogs!

We’ve written over 300 blogs here at YOB since 2015, and we gathered four of our site’s authors to discuss our favorite ones – recorded in front of a couple dozen people, no less. That’s right, it’s our first-ever LIVE recorded podcast with a digital audience! We invited our Patreon supporters on Facebook to watch and participate in the discussion with comments and questions for this episode’s cast: Tom, Ryan, Dean, and Matt. Each of us reads our personal favorite blog for the cast and YOBBERS to discuss. We also mention our blogs that have garnered the most views these last four years, and Tom and Matt share lots of fun-loving “big brother” moments together.

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YOBcast Episode 057: Gay Sex and Hookups

What led to your having gay sex for the first time? Can you separate the physical from the emotional in gay sex? How many times have you had gay sex, and would you consider yourself a sex addict? It’s a throwback episode with three of our original YOB cofounders: Tom, Dean, and Matt. We talk with Matt about his journey and struggles with gay sex and hookups. It’s a raw, courageous chronicling of his story as a pastor’s kid – a story still being written to this day. We also catch up with Dean and Matt from the last year or so, including Dean’s recent exploits to Canada (and questionable Canadian accent) and Matt’s sarcastic sense of humor (or actual disappointment) with Tom…

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What is Love as a Queer Man?

As a queer man, why would a loving God permit me to desire that from which I should abstain? Why allow me as a young boy to be so abused as to feel unsafe as a boy and retreat to dreaming of being a girl? How could God, in infinite and perfect love, let my will so rebel against His holiness? And how on earth do I demonstrate that love?

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Fruit of the Spirit: A Queer Man’s Journey for 2020

My queerness is a part of me. And my desire is to submit my whole self to Christ. Thus, why would I not hold up my sexuality to the fruit of the Spirit to test it? Perhaps I may see where my sexuality rails against the Spirit. Or perhaps I may see where the Spirit shines its attributes through my queer identity.

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I’m Tired of Always Understanding

I understand: this phrase could be my life’s motto. God has given me great ability as an empath to feel what others feel, even when I completely disagree with them. I’m not sure who first said it but the phrase, your greatest strength can also be your greatest weakness, rings true here.

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Do I Like Physical Touch Now?

I’m feeling an ache from an empty space in my life. The ache seems to be crying out for something I haven’t felt much desire in — well, forever? I’m feeling a longing for affectionate, brotherly touch from another guy: a hug, an arm around the shoulder, a tight embrace, an encouraging pat on the back, a caring hand on my neck. And I have no idea why.

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I Still Struggle to be Vulnerable

The seemingly deepest parts of my life are on display for the world to see. And yet there are a few things that I keep close — secret — from those closest to me. Because I am afraid of being vulnerable with them.  I’m not talking about “coming out” — I’m talking about the matters at my very core that influence my actions in ways few could ever imagine.

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Do Our Stories Actually Point to Jesus?

Stories have power, and people love them for it. As such, that power can misused. The power of a story can be wielded in a way that causes untold damage and pain. As I’ve done more and more to reach LGBTQ+ individuals outside the church, I’ve had to face a stark reality: Christians have abused select people’s stories to the detriment of the Gospel.

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