About The Author

Dean

dean@yourotherbrothers.com

I write under this pseudonym account and do my best to pursue Jesus Christ every day. I fail often, yet I get back up each time. I am married to an incredible woman I call Lisa – she is far better than I deserve. My daughter is one of the greatest joys of my life. And in my spare time, I watch my favorite TV shows and movies, play RPG video games, and hang out with my friends. Yes, I am a nerd and I am proud of it.

YOBcast Episode 067: “Side A” Friends Q&A

We’re back to answer some amazing YOBBERS questions from our “Side A” Friends podcast from a few episodes back. Join Tom, Dean, and Matt for another deep dive into the world of “Side A” friendships: that is, those friendships with fellow LGBT+ believers who hold an affirming view of same-sex sexual relationships. Some questions we tackle in this follow-up episode include: Would you go to a Side A friend’s gay wedding? How would you pursue Side B friendship if you were the one who is Side A? And how do we apply Paul’s words on sexual immorality in 1 Corinthians 5 to the modern church?

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How Can I Be Good?

I am fallen. Identity in Christ aside, I am still in a body of sin and death, as Paul said. I fight a fallen flesh every single day. How can I be good? How can goodness be a fruit of mine?

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YOBcast Episode 065: Loving LGBT+ People

Bill Henson of Lead Them Home, Posture Shift, and Guiding Families joins Tom, Ryan, and Dean for a special guest discussion on loving LGBT+ people – both inside and outside the Church. How do we better understand LGBT-identifying people or those who experience same-sex attraction, and how do we love them well?

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What Motivates My Kindness?

What if kindness as a fruit of the Spirit simply meant your unconscious approach to others – and even to yourself – was to help instead of judge? What if kindness manifested itself in the simple idea that when you see someone in need or hurting or broken, you desire to care for them before you desire to know how it happened?

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YOBcast Episode 062: “Side A” Friends

“Side A” people follow Jesus with an affirming position on same-sex sexual relationships. As Jesus-followers from a “Side B” (traditional) position on marriage and sexuality, is it difficult or effortless to forge friendships with folks who are Side A? Join Tom, Dean, and Matt for a discussion on their experiences with Side A friendships: both with friends who started out Side A and also with friends who started out Side B – only for them to change to Side A. Can Side B-turned-A friendships survive? How do we build healthy Side A friendships?

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How Waiting With Hope is Teaching Me Patience

I desire so greatly to be in heaven in the presence of my God and Savior. Yet I still wait. And wait. Every day with a reminder of my imperfections through a fallen world, broken relationships, and a scarred gender identity. Every day I long for Christ’s return. Is this how I live out patience as a queer man?

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I Don’t Want God’s Peace Like a River

Being LGBT+ means that I am often in a turbulent place. Either I am around other Christians who don’t understand my identity, or I am around other LGBT+ individuals who don’t understand my convictions, or I am around people who cannot grasp either thing.

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When God’s Peace is Hard to Find

I don’t feel like having peace. Peace won’t give my family income. Peace won’t solve the financial burdens of two massive ministries. Peace won’t cure the coronavirus or bring back canceled jobs or put food on the table or anything. Peace won’t do anything I want it to do right now. So, what good is it?

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A Conversation with Your Other Brothers in This Pandemic

With most of the U.S. and much of the world in quarantine or shelter-in-place due to COVID-19, we gathered our featured authors for a conversation on the challenges and calls to growth through these strange times. We hope you feel a little less alone in joining our conversation.

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