My Church Supports My True Calling
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My Church Supports My True Calling

Moments shape our lives. Stephen Sondheim wrote in his show, Into the Woods: Oh, if life were made of moments Even now and then a bad one! But if life were only moments Then you’d never know you had one. My life has had some incredible moments. The moment I met my wife. The moment my daughter […]

YOBcast Episode 018: Sports
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YOBcast Episode 018: Sports

Some boys find success and belonging in the world of sports. Many others do not. How do our sports experiences of the past impact us today? In this episode, Tom and Elliott welcome back Bradley for a lively conversation about sports: our greatest triumphs, our worst disasters, and what it all means moving forward. As […]

Even When I Don’t Know My Other Brothers
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Even When I Don’t Know My Other Brothers

I remember first meeting Tom Zuniga. He could barely have a conversation to save his life. This is not an exaggeration. He was so difficult to talk to; I almost considered killing him. I am thankful I did not. He is a great friend and brother. I remember first meeting Sam Adams. He was blaring […]

Eugene Peterson, Same-Sex Marriage, and Feeling Invisible in the Church
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Eugene Peterson, Same-Sex Marriage, and Feeling Invisible in the Church

Eugene Peterson — pastor, author of The Message paraphrase Bible — recently made waves in the Christian world. First, he “affirmed” same-sex marriage, then he backtracked, still claiming to believe in “biblical marriage.” LifeWay threatened to pull his books from their stores if he didn’t align his beliefs with theirs, and a day later he did. […]

Real Men Mow Their Own Lawns
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Real Men Mow Their Own Lawns

I hate mowing my lawn. Hate it with a passion. This is not an exaggeration either. If I could, I would have solid gravel all around my house. That, or a magical lawn fairy who would keep my lawn looking pristine without my ever having to lift a finger. Since the lawn fairy still ignores […]

Losing the Greatest Community of My Life
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Losing the Greatest Community of My Life

Two years ago, I moved away from an incredibly close community of guys. I first met these guys during my first year of Bible college. We all lived in the same dorm, and we grew incredibly close. I disclosed my attraction to the same sex to all of them just a month or two into […]

What Every SSA Guy Needs
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What Every SSA Guy Needs

His question was an honest one. No ill intentions, no wild presuppositions. Simply put: a curiosity stemming from lack of education. More in passing than direct, a side statement within a side statement. But it was still a question. And it had to be answered. Why do SSA guys need strong male friendships? My friend Mick […]

Discovering the Heart of My Nudist Desires
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Discovering the Heart of My Nudist Desires

In the first installment of this series, I described the beginnings of my long and complicated relationship with nudity. Entering high school, my love/hate relationship with nudity became more complicated . . . I grew fascinated by the thought of naked men and being naked with them but also terrified at the same time. My […]

Living (and Dying) in Community
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Living (and Dying) in Community

There are people in my life I don’t like very much. I don’t like talking to them and I don’t like spending much time with them. They wear on me. Our personalities clash. Christians often avoid admitting disliking anyone, especially in their community, but let’s be real here: some people drive us crazy. I don’t always […]

My Complicated Relationship with Nudity
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My Complicated Relationship with Nudity

My only friend in elementary school had a neighborhood friend named Jeffrey. As he and I sat at the table talking about who knows what, he piped up with a story. “One time,” he said, “the three of us were playing truth or dare. We dared Jeffrey’s little brother to strip naked and run around […]