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YOBcast Episode 071: Intentional Community
Pieter Valk joins us for a discussion on monastic or intentional community, with particular regard to his Nashville Family of Brothers. We talk about the logistics of living under one roof with fellow single celibate male believers, not just for a season or two, but for the long haul. Through every season.
Read MoreSurviving the Culture War as a “Side B” Believer
by Eugene Heffron | Oct 28, 2020 | Musings | 19
In my years before finding Your Other Brothers, coming to terms with my sexuality was extremely difficult as it seemed there were only two options for my future. These two options reflected the polarized extremes embodying the culture war.
Read MoreYOBcast Episode 066: Manliness
When do you feel manly? When do you feel not at all manly? Is manliness even something worth pursuing? Join Tom, Ryan, and Jacob for a return to one of our “classic” episodes in which we discuss opening pickle jars, killing cockroaches, camping out, working out, owning a home, and so much more on this simultaneously shallow and deep topic of manliness.
Read MoreDear Younger Me: Jesus Loves All of You
by Aaron | Sep 15, 2020 | Lifestories | 23
The latest song to get me spiritually musing is “Dear Younger Me” by the band, MercyMe. The premise of the song is thinking through what one would tell his younger self if he ever got the chance. Would it be some cheesy speech about enjoying every moment to its fullest? Would he warn himself of all the mistakes to come, even though those mistakes are now inseparable from the man he became? What would he say? What would I say to a younger me?
Read MoreHow Should a Christian Gay Guy Dress, Speak, and Act?
Many conservative Christians believe that gay men should not only give up gay sex but also deliberately choose to dress, speak, and act more masculinely. A well-known Christian ministry posted an article last year that expressed the view that men with feminine mannerisms and dress are literally going to hell if they don’t stop.
Read MoreThe Church vs. the LGBTQ+ Community: A More Compelling Narrative?
by Will Cooper | Jul 28, 2020 | Musings | 7
I feel my Christian community lacking and also the LGBTQ+ community lacking. What is one supposed to do? I think we Christians who are LGBTQ+/SSA can and must push a more compelling narrative – one rooted in the Bible. The church is for all who are repentant, not just the straight ones who are repentant.
Read MoreI’ve Never Tried to Pray the Gay Away
by Thomas Mark Zuniga | Jul 22, 2020 | Lifestories | 23
I’ve long heard a common refrain among fellow gay or SSA folks in the church, and it’s something I’ve honestly never been able to relate with. That’s not to put myself “above” others; it’s just my reality. Many have tried to “pray the gay away,” and I can’t recall ever doing so. From a young age I felt a certain draw to the other boys, and while I felt shame for the lingering looks and daydreams, I never blamed God or even asked Him to take it away, add a splash of heterosexuality, or what have you.
Read MoreLonging for Intimacy with Straight Guy Friends
by Eugene Heffron | Jul 1, 2020 | Lifestories | 27
I just have a longing to be accepted, seen as a man among men. To feel like one of the guys. Yes, I’ve experienced those feelings with fellow “Side B” friends, but sometimes it only feels like one side of the coin.
Read MoreIsolation Amid Covid-19 and Hope for the Future
by Ben Rutkowski | Apr 22, 2020 | Musings | 5
The Covid-19 pandemic has become something of an “isolation equalizer.” People everywhere are living in tension and isolation with businesses closed, services restricted, and life as we’ve known it ground to a halt. We are, all of us, isolated. And yet there is tremendous opportunity to unite in our shared isolation.
Read MoreThe Coronavirus Pandemic and the “Side B” Community’s Special Role in the Church
by Daniel Marquez | Apr 14, 2020 | Musings | 5
Before all the lockdowns started as the coronavirus pandemic spread around the world, I started writing this reflection about how my experience in the “Side B” bubble could play a bigger part in the Church and, in turn, the wider world around me. When this whole pandemic broke out I thought, What better time to play our part but now?
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