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When the Masculine Ideal Failed Me

by Eugene Heffron | May 4, 2018 | Lifestories | 52

His profile definitely made him seem like the modern, ideal, “manly man.” He was a jock type with many photos of himself playing baseball. He also stated drawing as one of his hobbies, just like me. A straight masculine dude who plays sports, likes drawing, and calls himself a Christian? Perfect!

Where I Fill My Deepest Hunger

by Jacob Baranowski | Apr 25, 2018 | Lifestories | 28

Most of my life, I’ve thought of faith mainly as a decision based on knowing some facts about God. Instead, faith is about coming to Jesus in such a way that the deepest hungers and thirsts of our souls are satisfied in him.

Coming Out to My Family Like a Hit-and-Run

by Ryan Burger | Apr 17, 2018 | Lifestories | 40

I would be coming out to my family over dinner. I told them that I wasn’t planning on changing the course of my faith. I explained that I was telling them because I planned to tell even more people. I told them that if I wanted to talk about it again I’d be the one to bring it up, and I stood up and left.

My Straight Friend Won’t Touch Me

by Eugene Heffron | Apr 6, 2018 | Lifestories | 31

He was never physically affectionate; we’d never even hugged. I wanted to touch him not out of a sexual desire but from a longing to connect with him as love with a brother. I dreamed of a day when we could embrace and confess our brotherly love for each other. I put my hand on his shoulder once. He brushed it off.

YOBcast Episode 033: Marriage, Another Story

by Thomas Mark Zuniga | Mar 30, 2018 | Podcast | 18

Sometimes a marriage falls apart. We tell another story of “mixed-orientation” marriage as Elliott’s friend, John, talks about his unique upbringing in Japan, his time as an openly gay man at a Christian college, his sexual encounters with men and women, and ultimately a marriage that led to children and heartbreak.

Cigarettes and the Stress of Same-Sex Attraction

by Will Cooper | Mar 23, 2018 | Lifestories | 13

As I entered into ministry, I knew my SSA could end it all in one swift move. I hoped that instead of being rejected I would be loved. I hoped that people would notice their prejudice and change once they met me. I spent much time in prayer — but also smoking.

YOBcast Episode 032: Marriage

by Thomas Mark Zuniga | Mar 16, 2018 | Podcast | 30

Is opposite-sex marriage a feasible path for guys with same-sex attraction? Tom and Elliott welcome back Corey and his wife, Kate. We talk the ins and outs of their “mixed orientation” marriage. Their high school romance. Their engagement. Their wedding night. Their journey to conferences. Their marriage.