Understanding the Male Butt Smack
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Understanding the Male Butt Smack

There we were, my friends and I, at our richest friend’s mini-mansion after church one afternoon. We were mostly college-age twenty-somethings filling up the big kitchen/living room, talking and laughing. The TV was on and snacks were on the table. It was then that I saw my chance. My friend, Bryan, stood by the island […]

The First Guy Who Ever Tried to Kiss Me
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The First Guy Who Ever Tried to Kiss Me

I’ve written before about having never been kissed. But that doesn’t mean someone’s never tried to kiss me. Back when I was befriending this fellow blogger who liked to hold my hand, I’d had fantasies about what it would be like: kissing him, fooling around in my car. Never anything romantic or long-term — just […]

When Should I Hug Another Guy?
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When Should I Hug Another Guy?

Like many other guys who deal with same-sex attraction, I really appreciate affection expressed by physical touch. Especially hugs. For me, hugs are never sexual — just a way to show Christian love. But not all guys feel comfortable hugging another guy. So, when should I hug another guy or a male friend? The answer […]

The First Guy Who Ever Held My Hand
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The First Guy Who Ever Held My Hand

Years ago, back when I’d first delved into the world of online SSA friendships, I got to talking with another SSA guy in my area. We commented on each other’s blogs, we friended each other on Facebook, and we traded phone numbers, too. He intimidated me, this guy: attractive and charming and, most of all, […]

YOBcast Episode 014: Emotional Dependency, Part 2
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YOBcast Episode 014: Emotional Dependency, Part 2

How do we endure the weightiness of emotional dependency, and how do we move beyond our emotional dependency? The conversation continues in the second part of this two-part episode on emotional dependency, featuring Tom, Elliott, Marshall, Corey, and Bradley. In this episode, Tom, Elliott, and Marshall share their personal stories of emotional dependency, and we discuss […]

I’ve Never Wanted to Have Sex with Another Man
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I’ve Never Wanted to Have Sex with Another Man

In all my years of wrestling with same-sex attraction — a physical and emotional attraction I can trace back to first grade — not once have I ever sought out or even remotely desired sex with another man. Deep breath. I realize and must certainly clarify that my story is my story alone. I can’t […]

Losing My Sexual Sobriety
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Losing My Sexual Sobriety

I lost my sexual sobriety a few weeks ago. Just cutting right to the chase — it’s been a hard few weeks. From the start, I knew how risky it was to write so openly about my journey through sexual sobriety. I don’t regret doing so, but I feel all kinds of yucky confessing my […]

YOBcast Episode 006: Straight Guys
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YOBcast Episode 006: Straight Guys

In this episode, Marshall joins Tom and Elliott for a discussion on straight guys and friendship. Featuring listener questions from our patrons! Enjoy what we’re doing? Consider supporting us financially each month via Patreon! Even $1/month gets you regular behind-the-scenes access to our blog, podcast, and video projects. $5/month lets you into our patron-only Facebook […]

Confession: A Spoken Word
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Confession: A Spoken Word

Introducing a new video! Instead of a traditional blog post, I have decided to share some of my story and experiences with you in the spoken word format. Check out my video from our YOBTube channel for an honest confession of my hurts, frustrations, and needs as a same-sex attracted believer. Hopefully you resonate with it on some level. […]

What’s Coming Soon to YOB
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What’s Coming Soon to YOB

We’re back from a week off the blog, and I’m back from four days spent with nine of my best buds — my fellow bloggers, my brothers, my heroes. We gathered in the Midwest for our second annual summer retreat, and I daresay this year’s gathering was even better than the last. Last year, most […]