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Receiving Brotherhood at the YOBBERS Retreat

by Dean Samuels | Jun 10, 2019 | Lifestories | 3

I realized that these guys had come to this YOBBERS retreat for the right reasons. They came to honor Christ, love one another, and encourage each other. And that included me. I realized that I had come expecting to work and only work, with no expectation to receive anything.

Please Don’t Let Our Second YOBBERS Retreat Suck

by YOB | May 28, 2019 | Conversations | 13

We recently held our second annual YOBBERS retreat: a weekend gathering for our financial supporters and community members on Patreon. Several of our authors attended, and we discussed our time together — both highs and lows — in the Blue Ridge Mountains.

My Sexuality is a Gift from God

by Dean Samuels | May 14, 2019 | Lifestories | 28

God could have prevented my attraction to men. Whatever your beliefs on causation, I believe God is powerful enough to have adjusted whatever needed adjusting to have prevented my attraction to men. Since this did not happen, I can only determine one reasonable possibility: my sexuality was something God wanted for my life. Therefore, I see it as a gift.

Navigating Faith, Homosexuality, and Masculinity. On Easter.

by Daniel Marquez | Apr 17, 2019 | Lifestories | 17

It’s Easter season, and I’ve been reflecting on the meaning of the cross. Not just the meaning of the cross for the bigger picture of salvation for humanity, but also the tangible effects the cross has been having on me.

How My Best Friend’s Relationship Affects Me

by Matthew 'Áshįįhí | Mar 5, 2019 | Lifestories | 3

One day, we finally grabbed lunch together, and I just poured out my heart to my best friend. I pleaded for him to take his relationship slowly and not to forget about me. While saying that, something just clicked in my brain. I started tearing up; right then and there, I asked my best friend to forgive me for being a jerk.

Sobering and Necessary: Our Response to “Boy Erased”

by YOB | Feb 26, 2019 | Conversations, Popular | 52

Several of our featured authors watched the film, Boy Erased. It’s based on the real-life story of Garrard Conley who wrote a memoir of the same name. Boy Erased follows a young man’s journey through reparative or conversion therapy, and it’s also a story of a mother’s and father’s relationships with their gay son. It’s a heavy film, and we debriefed it together in this extensive conversation.

I Hate Being a Sensitive Man Who Feels Things

by Thomas Mark Zuniga | Feb 21, 2019 | Lifestories | 12

I’m a sensitive man who feels things, feels things all the time, and no amount of oversleeping or overdrinking or pornography or promiscuity will turn me off.

Physical Affection Ruins a Friendship

by Dean Samuels | Feb 14, 2019 | Lifestories | 14

My friend was not a physically affectionate guy. He showed his discomfort with my physical affection. I was aware and relented some. But I still tried to show him physical affection when I could. I believed it was healthy. I told myself that this physical affection was necessary for us as friends.

It’s Okay for Men to Cry

by Thomas Mark Zuniga | Feb 11, 2019 | Manly Monday, Video | 22

Is it okay for men to cry? Jesus did, as we see in the famed Lazarus story of John 11. But what about men in today’s culture? In this month’s episode, I talk about crying over the death of a dog and the death of a car and how it’s okay for men to have a more sensitive side. Even if it’s the only side.

Fitness for the Fearful Gay Man

by Eugene Heffron | Feb 8, 2019 | Lifestories | 14

Being a stereotypical gay/SSA guy, I had no interest in sports or athletics. I seemed not to care very much about how my body looked either. However, my medical problems gave me a new perspective on how I treated my body. I was tired of being an awkward, flabby, doughy guy. So, I joined a gym. I definitely felt intimidated.