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When the Masculine Ideal Failed Me

by Eugene Heffron | May 4, 2018 | Lifestories | 52

His profile definitely made him seem like the modern, ideal, “manly man.” He was a jock type with many photos of himself playing baseball. He also stated drawing as one of his hobbies, just like me. A straight masculine dude who plays sports, likes drawing, and calls himself a Christian? Perfect!

Where I Fill My Deepest Hunger

by Jacob Baranowski | Apr 25, 2018 | Lifestories | 26

Most of my life, I’ve thought of faith mainly as a decision based on knowing some facts about God. Instead, faith is about coming to Jesus in such a way that the deepest hungers and thirsts of our souls are satisfied in him.

When Grief Tests a Friendship

by Marshall | Apr 11, 2018 | Lifestories | 25

He wanted me to be a man, to be tough, emotionally disciplined and not giving in to my grief. After all, we should consider ourselves like soldiers in battle who can’t afford to stop and grieve when someone dies. I couldn’t fully process everything at the time, but you can imagine how I felt as a sensitive guy.

My Straight Friend Won’t Touch Me

by Eugene Heffron | Apr 6, 2018 | Lifestories | 31

He was never physically affectionate; we’d never even hugged. I wanted to touch him not out of a sexual desire but from a longing to connect with him as love with a brother. I dreamed of a day when we could embrace and confess our brotherly love for each other. I put my hand on his shoulder once. He brushed it off.

When a Friendship Gets Tested

by Marshall | Mar 9, 2018 | Lifestories | 4

All these ups and downs often caused me emotional pain. I had to take risks rather than stay safe and comfortable. My SSA made me feel weak and ineffective around all these straight guys. These painful things tested my friendship with James, too.

How an Alpha Male Became My Close Friend

by Marshall | Jan 29, 2018 | Lifestories | 11

A straight and very strong “alpha male” type leader has constantly challenged me to go beyond what is safe and comfortable to accomplish more of what really matters. We started becoming close friends, so I shared with him that I deal with same-sex attraction.