About Me

I happily follow Jesus Christ, who is worth everything He costs! My writing tends to focus on the topic of friendships with other guys, and I  am currently the oldest author on YOB.

My Friend’s Baggage Affects Me
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My Friend’s Baggage Affects Me

This is the second post featuring my rocky friendship with Jake; check out Part 1. After I let Jake sleep on my couch for a few days, he went back to his parents’ house. We remained in contact. I knew he was trouble, but I saw something in him that made me want to befriend […]

My Struggles Like Substance Abuse
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My Struggles Like Substance Abuse

I remember the first time I saw Jake at my front door. I’d gotten a call from a high school student I had tutored, and that student had sent him to me because Jake was 18 and his parents had just thrown him out of the house. He thought I might give Jake a place […]

YOBcast Episode 014: Emotional Dependency, Part 2
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YOBcast Episode 014: Emotional Dependency, Part 2

How do we endure the weightiness of emotional dependency, and how do we move beyond our emotional dependency? The conversation continues in the second part of this two-part episode on emotional dependency, featuring Tom, Elliott, Marshall, Corey, and Bradley. In this episode, Tom, Elliott, and Marshall share their personal stories of emotional dependency, and we discuss […]

YOBcast Episode 013: Emotional Dependency, Part 1
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YOBcast Episode 013: Emotional Dependency, Part 1

What is emotional dependency? How do we avoid falling emotionally dependent on another man for our survival, and how do we recover when we cross that line? It’s the first in a two-part episode on emotional dependency — or “emodep,” as we so lovingly call it. Join Tom and Elliott along with Corey, Marshall, and […]

Rebirth of a Male Friendship
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Rebirth of a Male Friendship

This is Part 4 of my friendship series with Justin. Check out Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3. I also talked about Justin in the YOBcast Episode 006. Surprisingly, the end of my friendship with Justin was not the end of the story. I had destroyed our friendship by my unhealthy emotional dependence and demands […]

When Male Friendship Dies
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When Male Friendship Dies

This is Part 3 in this friendship series; check out Part 1 and Part 2. I also reference Justin on episode 6 of the YOBcast. When my straight roommate, Justin, learned I dealt with same-sex attraction, he almost ended the friendship right then and there. He saw my obsession with him and that I wanted him to meet all my […]

When Friendship Turns Unhealthy
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When Friendship Turns Unhealthy

This is Part 2 in my series about my friendship with Justin. Check out Part 1. I also referenced Justin on episode 6 of the YOBcast. Almost immediately after I moved in with my straight friend, Justin, things started to go bad between us. He was not at home as much as I had expected since he […]

Best Friends with a Straight Guy
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Best Friends with a Straight Guy

This is part 1 in my series about my friendship with Justin. Check out  Part 2. I also referenced Justin on episode 6 of the YOBcast. I met Justin about a year after he became a Christian. He had joined the same church I attended, and I got to know him through another friend at church. […]

Marginalized by the Church
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Marginalized by the Church

This is Part 3 in my series about my friendship with Jeremy. Check out Part 1 and Part 2. When my friend, Drew, had a prodigal son experience and went back to his parents’ house, it made my SSA friend Jeremy and his younger housemates stop and think about what they were doing. Much of their wild living […]

YOBcast Episode 006: Straight Guys
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YOBcast Episode 006: Straight Guys

In this episode, Marshall joins Tom and Elliott for a discussion on straight guys and friendship. Featuring listener questions from our patrons! Enjoy what we’re doing? Consider supporting us financially each month via Patreon! Even $1/month gets you regular behind-the-scenes access to our blog, podcast, and video projects. $5/month lets you into our patron-only Facebook […]