About Me

I happily follow Jesus Christ, who is worth everything He costs! My writing tends to focus on the topic of friendships with other guys, and I  am currently the oldest author on YOB.

The Thing I Learned from My Friend’s Addiction
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The Thing I Learned from My Friend’s Addiction

This is the fourth part in the story of my eventful and often strange friendship with Jake. You can read Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3. As soon as I met Jake, I saw that he had issues with drug and alcohol addiction. I knew his addiction could get worse, but I had no idea […]

YOBcast Episode 023: Pornography
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YOBcast Episode 023: Pornography

What is pornography? How early did we discover pornography, how has it evolved over the generations, and how do we combat it? Tom and Elliott welcome back Marshall for a long overdue conversation on pornography — particularly gay pornography. We discuss the definition of the term, our first exposures to pornography, and what we do […]

How I Make Friends as an Older Single Guy
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How I Make Friends as an Older Single Guy

As you might know, I am currently the oldest author on Your Other Brothers and a single man with no expectation of marriage. I once overheard a housemate talking about a guy in my situation. He’d said, “I thought he was supposed to be lonely and depressed!” I am an older, single guy, but I […]

YOBcast Episode 019: 1-Year Podcast Anniversary!
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YOBcast Episode 019: 1-Year Podcast Anniversary!

It’s hard to believe the YOBcast has now existed for an entire year! In this special anniversary episode, Tom and Elliott and six additional blogging brothers unite for a fun hour of reminiscing over the last year and ponder the age-old question: if you could push a big red button and erase your homosexuality, would you […]

When Should I Hug Another Guy?
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When Should I Hug Another Guy?

Like many other guys who deal with same-sex attraction, I really appreciate affection expressed by physical touch. Especially hugs. For me, hugs are never sexual — just a way to show Christian love. But not all guys feel comfortable hugging another guy. So, when should I hug another guy or a male friend? The answer […]

Questioning My Friend’s Sexuality
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Questioning My Friend’s Sexuality

This is my third post featuring the wild ride of my friendship with Jake. Check out Part 1 and Part 2. After Jake started trusting me, he opened up and shared his inner thoughts and difficult past experiences. I began to wonder if he was same-sex attracted when he talked about not having a girlfriend. […]

My Friend’s Baggage Affects Me
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My Friend’s Baggage Affects Me

This is the second post featuring my rocky friendship with Jake; check out Part 1. After I let Jake sleep on my couch for a few days, he went back to his parents’ house. We remained in contact. I knew he was trouble, but I saw something in him that made me want to befriend […]

My Struggles Like Substance Abuse
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My Struggles Like Substance Abuse

I remember the first time I saw Jake at my front door. I’d gotten a call from a high school student I had tutored, and that student had sent him to me because Jake was 18 and his parents had just thrown him out of the house. He thought I might give Jake a place […]

YOBcast Episode 014: Emotional Dependency, Part 2
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YOBcast Episode 014: Emotional Dependency, Part 2

How do we endure the weightiness of emotional dependency, and how do we move beyond our emotional dependency? The conversation continues in the second part of this two-part episode on emotional dependency, featuring Tom, Elliott, Marshall, Corey, and Bradley. In this episode, Tom, Elliott, and Marshall share their personal stories of emotional dependency, and we discuss […]

YOBcast Episode 013: Emotional Dependency, Part 1
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YOBcast Episode 013: Emotional Dependency, Part 1

What is emotional dependency? How do we avoid falling emotionally dependent on another man for our survival, and how do we recover when we cross that line? It’s the first in a two-part episode on emotional dependency — or “emodep,” as we so lovingly call it. Join Tom and Elliott along with Corey, Marshall, and […]