Finding Your Brotherhood

In this episode, Tom dives into the third of our five YOB values — brotherhood. In brotherhood, we learn to share our burdens with one another and bond in the two ways Jesus demonstrated — the being and the doing. Tom talks his childhood yearnings for brotherhood and how this longing has translated to the present day.

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The Answer to My Own Prayers

What would it look like for my distant tribe to be gathered together? Didn’t God long to change our shame into praise and renown? “Gather us,” I prayed. I prayed that my scattered and lost tribe would be drawn together, our fortunes restored before our eyes. It was a prayer for my own benefit, but also for all of us.

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When a Friendship Gets Tested

All these ups and downs often caused me emotional pain. I had to take risks rather than stay safe and comfortable. My SSA made me feel weak and ineffective around all these straight guys. These painful things tested my friendship with James, too.

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More Than Our Sexuality, Part 2

We love talking about meaningful, rarely discussed topics on this podcast; sometimes, though, it’s just good to laugh. We are more than our struggles, more than our weaknesses, and more than our sexuality. Tom and Elliott welcome back Frank and Joel for a follow-up to one of our more “controversial” episodes.

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When Hope Feels Frail

In this episode of Manly Monday, Tom talks about the first of our five YOB values — hope. Though hope often feels frail, even a little bit of hope is just as potent and powerful as a lot. Watch the video for more on our first value, including why Tom likes to write this word on himself.

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More Than Just My Best Friend

Once I had exhausted my words and my voice, he stepped right in and began pouring out every bit of encouragement he could think of. He kept his arm around me and continued to encourage me. It was as though I’d crumbled right in front of my best friend as he carefully helped build me back up.

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How an Alpha Male Became My Close Friend

A straight and very strong “alpha male” type leader has constantly challenged me to go beyond what is safe and comfortable to accomplish more of what really matters. We started becoming close friends, so I shared with him that I deal with same-sex attraction.

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Bro Cuddling: A Beginner’s Guide

I’ve cuddled with many fantastic men, all same-sex attracted. I can say with absolute certainty that these moments have been some of the most beautiful, moving, and totally platonic expressions of intimate love. I’d recommend reading these basic pointers based on my own past experiences with bro cuddling.

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