I Wanted to be Ex-Gay
I hadn’t wanted orientation change out of a desire to please God. I’d wanted to be straight because I simply wanted to be normal. I had been scared. I was internally homophobic, hating myself and especially other gay men.
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Finding Hope in Fantasy
My daughter had been injured by an accident — something that had no one to blame or fault. And in that time, I needed to know that it was all going to be all right. I needed to know that it would work out. I needed hope. And I needed to restore my faith in that hope.
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What’s a Same-Sex Celibate Partnership?
A same-sex celibate partnership is an intimate coupling between two same-sex attracted or gay-identifying individuals. Bonded for life in a way similar to marriage but, of course, minus the sex. I have already seen a few celibate couplings form between guys. I’ve been mostly watching from a distance, but other times I’ve contacted those folks to ask questions. Sometimes I view them with a lot of envy.
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Should I Let My Daughter Put Makeup On Me?
I love being a girl-dad. At the end of the day, my wearing some makeup or playing pretend with my daughter will not come to define her conception of gender.
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YOBcast Episode 041: Why Side B
Why do we choose a traditional, “Side B” sexual ethic as men who follow Jesus? Do we choose this life solely for our convictions or in spite of them? Do we live out a gay/SSA celibate life with joy or in angst and suffering? Tom welcomes Ryan and Matt for a discussion on why we’re Side B, as opposed to “Side A” (gay-affirming), and where these labels even come from.
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A Personal, Vulnerable Conversation
Henry and I had a great, heartfelt talk. But a realization hit me as we were talking: I don’t want to share this conversation with anyone else. What we talked about that day was personal. Vulnerable.
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Singleness in a Silhouette
We finished the day by taking silhouette pictures with the blazing orange-and-pink sky as our backdrop. My siblings lovingly kissed their spouses and lifted them up in the air as some of the most romantic and precious images I’d ever witnessed. I stayed to watch for a little while, knowing that no one would ask me if I wanted any pictures by myself. That would have been absurd, right? It didn’t take long for me to reach the end of what I could handle with my family. So, I ran away.
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Revoice: Taking the Church Wherever “Here” Leads
Several of our authors recently attended the inaugural Revoice conference in St. Louis: a...
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Giving Up On My Dreams for a Wife and Kids
When I was a kid, my dream was to grow up and get a wife and kids. A lot of kids. My family and church taught me to pray for my future spouse. So, I did. Everyday for years. I prayed for the girl I’d one day marry, that God would protect her and care for her, whoever she was.
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YOBcast Episode 034: Marriage, The Middle Ground
Sometimes a marriage works, and sometimes it doesn’t. And sometimes a marriage or the prospect of marriage is very much in flux. We discuss the biblical, cultural, and political contexts of marriage, sharing our stories of singleness and our supporters’ married stories from this still-in-process middle ground.
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