Male Nudity Will Fix Me
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Male Nudity Will Fix Me

I’ve written about my childhood fascination with nudity and how it led me into the nudist world, making me act out my sexual insecurities. I’d go even deeper into the world of nudism, thinking it’d be the solution to my problems. While I did have a strongly sexual fascination with male nudity, I figured it […]

YOBcast Episode 010: Hookups & Gay Sex
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YOBcast Episode 010: Hookups & Gay Sex

Why do we hook up with other men? What draws us to cross that line? And what happens in the aftermath of gay sex? Tom, Elliott, and Matt come together for a vulnerable conversation on their varied experiences in hookup culture. This episode cuts deep. If you enjoy our show and haven’t yet done so, […]

Sex Isn’t Enough
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Sex Isn’t Enough

“If you want to stop me, now is the time.” My cold hands gripped the steering wheel tight. My vision tunneled toward an unknown destination. With each short breath, my broken heart rattled around my ribcage. This was it. The moment I would finally cross the forbidden line. I was on my way to a stranger’s […]

I’ve Never Wanted to Have Sex with Another Man
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I’ve Never Wanted to Have Sex with Another Man

In all my years of wrestling with same-sex attraction — a physical and emotional attraction I can trace back to first grade — not once have I ever sought out or even remotely desired sex with another man. Deep breath. I realize and must certainly clarify that my story is my story alone. I can’t […]

I Know I’m A Hypocrite
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I Know I’m A Hypocrite

A few weeks ago, I made a friend at a coffee shop down the road. He’s a gay guy I’d gotten acquainted with through social media, and he got ahold of me because he wanted to know more about me and my faith. You see, where I live, we kinda have a small LGBT community, […]

YOBcast Episode 009: Male Envy
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YOBcast Episode 009: Male Envy

What does it mean to envy another? What do we envy in men? And why exactly are we envious of other men? In this episode, Tom and Elliott discuss the trap of envy — as well as envy’s antidote — from their Enneagram Type 4 perspectives. If you enjoy our show and haven’t yet done so, please consider rating […]

Getting Married … with Same-Sex Attraction
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Getting Married … with Same-Sex Attraction

When I was eighteen, God told me that I would get married one day. I said okay. When I was nineteen, I started making out with my best friend / codependent. Then he and I broke up. When I was twenty, I was fully aware of my homosexual cravings and had no attraction to women […]

Losing My Sexual Sobriety
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Losing My Sexual Sobriety

I lost my sexual sobriety a few weeks ago. Just cutting right to the chase — it’s been a hard few weeks. From the start, I knew how risky it was to write so openly about my journey through sexual sobriety. I don’t regret doing so, but I feel all kinds of yucky confessing my […]

You Are a Man and You are Awesome
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You Are a Man and You are Awesome

I hit a rough patch a few years ago. Relationships disappeared and teetered. Temptations hit. Pitfalls ensued. I didn’t have many go-to friends, and I spent mindless hours mired in online promiscuity. And then I came across a video. Or perhaps the video came across me? It’s called “Who You Are: A Message to All Men.” I’m […]

Keeping Healthy Boundaries with Another SSA Guy
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Keeping Healthy Boundaries with Another SSA Guy

This is Part 1 in my series about my friendship with Jeremy. Check out Part 2 and Part 3. I’ve told my stories of friendship with my gay brother, Brad, and my straight friend, Brandon. I will continue my stories on friendship by telling another about my long-time friend, Jeremy, who also deals with same-sex attraction (SSA). When I joined the church […]