So, everyone here has probably heard the term “gay Christian” at some point. If not, then surprise! The term comes from someone who identifies as a Christian, yet also accepts their sexuality as gay.

Many people have a hard time with this idea of being both gay and Christian at the same time. It can cause confusion and a dilemma amid their emotional, psychological, and spiritual states. Others may finally “accept” who they are and put those two terms together, gay and Christian, and go on with their lives.

Other Christians, though, have a hard time with this gay label, because they see this identification as being part of “the world.” The Bible tells us not to be part of the world, because trying to be part of the world is sinful.

I bet most of us struggling with same-sex attraction have been in that area of conflict within ourselves, of asking ourselves the question:

“Should I accept my sexuality and call myself gay? And if I do, should I shun my Christian beliefs or somehow still be a devout Christian?”

I mean, I’ve dealt with this problem before! Throughout my 10 years of being a Christian, both the good and bad years, I’ve gone back and forth many times — from the point of saying “No, I’m not gay, but I’m a Christian struggling with same-sex attraction” to “I’m a Gay Christian” and everywhere in between.

All I can say is — it’s not easy!

I don’t like being like everyone else — both in the Christian community and the LGBT community. Okay, that’s a lie. I kind of like being like everyone else, but only in small doses. But still, I love being different from everyone else!

Growing up in my faith, I always wondered that if it ever came down to calling myself a gay Christian, would I actually do it?

The obvious answer now is no, as you can see from the title! But why?

When someone doesn’t call himself a gay Christian and instead decides to call himself an “ex-gay Christian” or “Christian struggling with SSA” or just “Christian,” he usually uses Scripture to back up his decision. The typical answer could be quoting Scripture like Romans 12:2:

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…”

or 1 Corinthians 6:11:

“And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.”

Yada-Yada-Yada, typical Bible Scripture stuff. You guys get what I mean.

But what convinced me of not taking the title of gay Christian and basically just calling myself Christian comes from the passage in Luke 12 where Jesus is talking to the Sadducees about whether there’s gonna be marriage in heaven. He says in verse 25:

“For when they rise from the dead, they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven.”

Weird, right?! There’s also 2 Corinthians 5:1-8, where Paul is talking about how our earthly bodies are like a tent that’s gonna be destroyed, and we have an eternal body waiting for us, yet we yearn and groan for it!

When the Bible talks about heaven and our new bodies, I’m convinced just to let go of the combined title gay Christian and just take on the Christian. Yeah, I guess it still goes back to Scripture talking about transformation and that we are renewed — there’s no way around it.

But the way I see it, when we die and be present with the Lord in heaven soon after, God isn’t gonna call us His little gay Christians; He’s gonna call us His children! His good and faithful servants!

With this mindset, I’m already practicing to be called by my God-given name!

In His eyes, I am a follower of His Son, I’m a disciple, etc. And my job is to share the Gospel to everyone and anyone who is willing to listen and make disciples to all nations!

Where do you land on the “gay Christian” label? Have you gone back and forth over time?

* Photo courtesy tk_five_0, Creative Commons.

    Matthew Áshįįhí

    Hey y'all! Just an SSA, full-blooded Native American, ESTJ, Enneagram 8 here. I'm a very blunt person but know when people can't handle the whole truth. My job here is to tell you guys my story which is set up like a typical coffee shop, one-on-one talk. I'm here to challenge the way you think and encourage you spiritually. Hope you guys are ready!

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