About The Author

Matthew 'Áshįįhí

matt@yourotherbrothers.com

Hey y'all! Just an SSA, full-blooded Native American, ESTJ, Enneagram 8 here. I'm a very blunt person but know when people can't handle the whole truth. My job here is to tell you guys my story which is set up like a typical coffee shop, one-on-one talk. I'm here to challenge the way you think and encourage you spiritually. Hope you guys are ready!

YOBcast Episode 067: “Side A” Friends Q&A

We’re back to answer some amazing YOBBERS questions from our “Side A” Friends podcast from a few episodes back. Join Tom, Dean, and Matt for another deep dive into the world of “Side A” friendships: that is, those friendships with fellow LGBT+ believers who hold an affirming view of same-sex sexual relationships. Some questions we tackle in this follow-up episode include: Would you go to a Side A friend’s gay wedding? How would you pursue Side B friendship if you were the one who is Side A? And how do we apply Paul’s words on sexual immorality in 1 Corinthians 5 to the modern church?

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Asking My Bros for Advice About Girls

I was almost done with my turn of thorns and roses, and I remembered wanting to tell them I liked a girl. I just blurted it out: “So, I like this girl, and I think she’s pretty awesome!” All of the guys were a bit shocked and surprised to hear that come out of my mouth.

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YOBcast Episode 062: “Side A” Friends

“Side A” people follow Jesus with an affirming position on same-sex sexual relationships. As Jesus-followers from a “Side B” (traditional) position on marriage and sexuality, is it difficult or effortless to forge friendships with folks who are Side A? Join Tom, Dean, and Matt for a discussion on their experiences with Side A friendships: both with friends who started out Side A and also with friends who started out Side B – only for them to change to Side A. Can Side B-turned-A friendships survive? How do we build healthy Side A friendships?

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Corona ConvoCast 18: Tom and Matt Speak Navajo!

Tom welcomes back Matt for an in-depth conversation on his Native American heritage. The guys recount their experience at a diner in the Navajo Nation, and Matt shares his love for Native American fry bread. He also teaches Tom about his four clans as well as how to say a couple Navajo words!

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A Conversation with Your Other Brothers in This Pandemic

With most of the U.S. and much of the world in quarantine or shelter-in-place due to COVID-19, we gathered our featured authors for a conversation on the challenges and calls to growth through these strange times. We hope you feel a little less alone in joining our conversation.

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Corona ConvoCast 10: Tom and Matt Wanna See a Drive-In Movie!

Tom welcomes back Matt to talk about his family’s recently held funeral service and his church’s drive-in Easter service. Tom also marvels that Matt’s never seen “Parks and Recreation” as they joke about the Native American character in the show, and the guys plan their next get-together in New Mexico or North Carolina when this whole pandemic passes over.

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Corona ConvoCast 03: Tom and Matt Go Boarding!

Tom welcomes back another OG YOB author, Matt, to talk about how coronavirus life is affecting him on the other side of the country. There’s been some tragedy but also some hope. Tom also promises to follow in Matt’s literal footsteps and go longboarding very soon.

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YOBcast Episode 059 (LIVE): Favorite Blogs!

We’ve written over 300 blogs here at YOB since 2015, and we gathered four of our site’s authors to discuss our favorite ones – recorded in front of a couple dozen people, no less. That’s right, it’s our first-ever LIVE recorded podcast with a digital audience! We invited our Patreon supporters on Facebook to watch and participate in the discussion with comments and questions for this episode’s cast: Tom, Ryan, Dean, and Matt. Each of us reads our personal favorite blog for the cast and YOBBERS to discuss. We also mention our blogs that have garnered the most views these last four years, and Tom and Matt share lots of fun-loving “big brother” moments together.

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YOBcast Episode 057: Gay Sex and Hookups

What led to your having gay sex for the first time? Can you separate the physical from the emotional in gay sex? How many times have you had gay sex, and would you consider yourself a sex addict? It’s a throwback episode with three of our original YOB cofounders: Tom, Dean, and Matt. We talk with Matt about his journey and struggles with gay sex and hookups. It’s a raw, courageous chronicling of his story as a pastor’s kid – a story still being written to this day. We also catch up with Dean and Matt from the last year or so, including Dean’s recent exploits to Canada (and questionable Canadian accent) and Matt’s sarcastic sense of humor (or actual disappointment) with Tom…

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Coming Out and Confessing to My Pastor

He was sitting there waiting for me, like usual. My pastor asked if I was okay, though he knew I wasn’t. He could tell I was an emotional wreck, that I needed to get some stuff off my chest. I felt numb, this deep despair inside me, like all my energy had escaped me. I only had enough to meet with him on this particular day.

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