About Me

I'm a full blood Native American living in New Mexico (Yes, in the United States) who deals with Same-Sex Attractions on a regular basis. For those who are interested in my Meyer-Briggs test, I'm a ETSJ and Enneagram 8 (which I think they're dumb, but I guess other people like them, oh well!) I'm a very blunt person, and very sarcastic, which both gets me into trouble sometimes. I'm very involved in ministry in the area where I live, but do have time to have awesome conversations with different people.

How I write is basically having a one-on-one conversation: you are my audience, and I'm telling you my story. You'll be hearing how I grew up, things I've gone through, and stuff that's on my mind. My policy is being transparent with you guys, and being prepared for different trails that are yet to come. I'm here to challenge you to dive deeper in your faith with God, and to show that's it's ok to love people who have a different mindset than you. Hope you're ready!

YOBcast Episode 024: Temptation
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YOBcast Episode 024: Temptation

What triggers us and how do we reckon with temptation? What’s the difference between a trigger and a temptation, and how do we face temptation during moments of weakness and vulnerability? Tom and Elliott welcome Bradley and Matt for a vulnerable conversation on triggers and temptation. We dive into the HALT acronym (hungry, angry, lonely, […]

YOBcast Episode 019: 1-Year Podcast Anniversary!
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YOBcast Episode 019: 1-Year Podcast Anniversary!

It’s hard to believe the YOBcast has now existed for an entire year! In this special anniversary episode, Tom and Elliott and six additional blogging brothers unite for a fun hour of reminiscing over the last year and ponder the age-old question: if you could push a big red button and erase your homosexuality, would you […]

The First Time I Contracted an STD
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The First Time I Contracted an STD

Well! We’re back to Matt’s crazy sex stories! It’s been a while since I wrote about my hookups with other guys. As I’ve prefaced in previous posts, if you are unable to read a post like this due to its subject matter, DO NOT READ ANY FURTHER! Okay, now that that’s out of the way […]

Growing Up as a Pastor’s Kid with SSA
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Growing Up as a Pastor’s Kid with SSA

Childhood plays a very significant part in our lives. How we’re raised defines us in adulthood, paving the way toward how we interact with people: family, friends, churches, co-workers, or strangers. Father figures especially shaped our lives. Truth be told, none of us had a perfect father growing up. Some of us grew up in […]

My Passion Comes from Pain
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My Passion Comes from Pain

If you hang out with me long enough, I hope you’ll see this passion or drive for my Christian faith. I’d say I’ve had this passion for a long time. My church friends have seen this firsthand, as well as my gay friends! I can also sense it myself whenever I’m at my small group or Bible […]

YOBcast Episode 010: Hookups & Gay Sex
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YOBcast Episode 010: Hookups & Gay Sex

Why do we hook up with other men? What draws us to cross that line? And what happens in the aftermath of gay sex? Tom, Elliott, and Matt come together for a vulnerable conversation on their varied experiences in hookup culture. This episode cuts deep. If you enjoy our show and haven’t yet done so, […]

I Know I’m A Hypocrite
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I Know I’m A Hypocrite

A few weeks ago, I made a friend at a coffee shop down the road. He’s a gay guy I’d gotten acquainted with through social media, and he got ahold of me because he wanted to know more about me and my faith. You see, where I live, we kinda have a small LGBT community, […]

6 Reasons You Need a Community
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6 Reasons You Need a Community

In my last post, I talked about the drawbacks of my not having a community; in this post, I”ll be discussing why it’s important for you to have a community. The thought of community kept popping into my head. I always loved being part of a group of friends with whom you can just be yourself and […]

Why I Need a Community
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Why I Need a Community

The other day, I was coming back home from a men’s Bible study that I started attending this month. I love attending Bible studies around my city — whether it be from my church or a neighboring church. I get excited to sit down with a group of people, hang out, and discuss different books of the […]

I Crashed and Burned
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I Crashed and Burned

After enduring all the stuff with my church, I was ready to call it quits. Looking back now, I kind of did! After being told I couldn’t attend a ministry school or be a leader and stay away from the youth — twice! — I was deeply hurt. It seemed that if someone else who’d […]