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State of the YOB! February 2019

by YOB | Feb 28, 2019 | State of the YOB, Video | 0

Relive the month that was February 2019 at Your Other Brothers with our monthly community recap: State of the YOB! Also, Tom desperately needs some new matches.

Sobering and Necessary: Our Response to “Boy Erased”

by YOB | Feb 26, 2019 | Conversations, Popular | 52

Several of our featured authors watched the film, Boy Erased. It’s based on the real-life story of Garrard Conley who wrote a memoir of the same name. Boy Erased follows a young man’s journey through reparative or conversion therapy, and it’s also a story of a mother’s and father’s relationships with their gay son. It’s a heavy film, and we debriefed it together in this extensive conversation.

I Hate Being a Sensitive Man Who Feels Things

by Thomas Mark Zuniga | Feb 21, 2019 | Lifestories | 12

I’m a sensitive man who feels things, feels things all the time, and no amount of oversleeping or overdrinking or pornography or promiscuity will turn me off.

It’s Okay for Men to Cry

by Thomas Mark Zuniga | Feb 11, 2019 | Manly Monday, Video | 22

Is it okay for men to cry? Jesus did, as we see in the famed Lazarus story of John 11. But what about men in today’s culture? In this month’s episode, I talk about crying over the death of a dog and the death of a car and how it’s okay for men to have a more sensitive side. Even if it’s the only side.

Breaking Down the Idol of Brotherhood

by Thomas Mark Zuniga | Jan 22, 2019 | Lifestories | 29

I didn’t realize it at the time, but I’d made brotherhood my idol. Looking back, I see it so clearly now. So madly obvious. I made this pursuit of brotherhood and even ministry my idol. And I got the wind knocked out of me on the asinine climb.

How I’ll Heal in the Next Life

by Ryan Burger | Nov 29, 2018 | Musings | 30

God and I are going to have some time alone together at the beginning of the next life. For the wounds to heal, for the scars to fade, and for the tears to become mere memory. I used to think healing would happen in an instant, but I’m not sure that’s how healing works anymore.

Finding Hope in Fantasy

by Dean Samuels | Nov 27, 2018 | Lifestories | 12

My daughter had been injured by an accident — something that had no one to blame or fault. And in that time, I needed to know that it was all going to be all right. I needed to know that it would work out. I needed hope. And I needed to restore my faith in that hope.

I Don’t Want to Lose Another Best Friend

by Matthew 'Áshįįhí | Nov 18, 2018 | Lifestories | 9

I didn’t want to lose my best friend to this soon-to-be relationship. I already knew what it felt like to be left alone, tossed away like an old rag doll by a straight relationship, forgotten. I don’t know how many times this had happened to me, and I wasn’t ready to go through it again. Especially by someone I thought would be my best friend for a long time.

Fighting Masculine Insecurities on Spring Break

by Kevin Zimmerman | Oct 19, 2018 | Lifestories | 7

Just imagining myself joining this group on this trip brought up several anxieties: the fear of sharing, sleeping, and showering among so many other guys. I also had masculine insecurities about cleaning up after Hurricane Katrina along with the ability to share my faith. But God is bigger than my anxieties. And as I’d eventually learn, jumping into the unknown with God tends to be the best option.

Coming Out at College

by Kevin Zimmerman | Sep 12, 2018 | Lifestories | 7

College held the hope for a fresh start. Home meant the weight of my double-life: the pain of lying about porn and “everything is okay” all the time; the great friendships that never felt deep or authentic enough for my broken self.