State of the YOB! February 2019
Relive the month that was February 2019 at Your Other Brothers with our monthly community recap: State of the YOB! Also, Tom desperately needs some new matches.
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I Hate Being a Sensitive Man Who Feels Things
I’m a sensitive man who feels things, feels things all the time, and no amount of oversleeping or overdrinking or pornography or promiscuity will turn me off.
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Physical Affection Ruins a Friendship
My friend was not a physically affectionate guy. He showed his discomfort with my physical affection. I was aware and relented some. But I still tried to show him physical affection when I could. I believed it was healthy. I told myself that this physical affection was necessary for us as friends.
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State of the YOB! January 2019
It’s our monthly roundup of all the happenings at YOB! Pardon my almost-swearing in the intro. We had a great month of stories and content to kick off the new year!
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Codependency Ruins a Friendship
Whenever I struggled, I sent my friend a message and he encouraged me. By all accounts, I started doing better with my depression. But that’s how codependency can look at the start — a “healthy” accountability relationship.
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What’s a Same-Sex Celibate Partnership?
A same-sex celibate partnership is an intimate coupling between two same-sex attracted or gay-identifying individuals. Bonded for life in a way similar to marriage but, of course, minus the sex. I have already seen a few celibate couplings form between guys. I’ve been mostly watching from a distance, but other times I’ve contacted those folks to ask questions. Sometimes I view them with a lot of envy.
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Is YOB Going a New Direction?!
MANLY MONDAY returns after a month’s hiatus! Join me as I tackle the question (that used to be) on everybody’s (or a vocal few’s) minds (or not).
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Side B Friendships are Hard
It’s no secret that I have written extensively on the joys and blessings of SSA, gay, or Side B friendships. Indeed, these particular friendships have been incredible and moving experiences that I would not trade for anything in the world. But at the same time, let me be clear: maintaining Side B friendships with other guys can be HARD.
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YOBcast Episode 040: Change
Change happens to all of us. Relational change. Spiritual change. Seasons of life that take us to the redemptive mountaintops and valleys of shadows. Tom welcomes Ryan and Dean for our first episode back after a monthlong hiatus. It’s an episode of literal change with new sounds, new segments, and new features as we dive into a discussion on the most pivotal changes in our lives. We discuss our authors’ retreat weekend, the inaugural Revoice conference, our first 1-star iTunes review, Tom’s initial discovery of this Your Other Brothers community, Ryan’s journey with body image, Dean’s friendship with Tom’s younger brother, and more.
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The Male Imprints Left On Us
When we give our hearts to people we are changed, even if they never give us their hearts in return. These effects aren’t scars — they don’t begin as wounds — and I wouldn’t call them baggage. They’re like paint splashes on our canvas hearts or imprints on our soft, clay souls.
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